Men and Women 2: To Be or Not To Be Yourself

Now let me continue my story.

So, when the first excitement of love was overcome or at least taken under control, it occurred to me that I must at all costs be the BEST for my honey, which would require quite an effort on my part. Believe me, it was pretty painful for me to realize that I was half a kilo overweight and couldn’t cook His favorite cheese soup into the bargain.

The more time we spent together the more faults I found with myself. One day I appeared to be too emotional, while the next day I accused myself of being too shy. I would say to myself that I could forgive Him any weakness but doubted whether He could do the same. Frankly speaking, I can’t explain why…

You must be the best for your sweetheart as long as you ENJOY it and, more importantly, as long as it makes Him happy. Your union is meant to help you both develop through life rather than alter and even destroy your selves.

Now, looking back on what I was at the beginning of our relationships I can definitely say that I was really less attractive, graceful and…even less clever. Nevertheless, it was me whom He fell in love with almost at first sight, whom He made sophisticated compliments every other minute.

Some will argue that love makes us blind to each other’s weaknesses. Yes, this might be the case if your vision is blurred with passion, rather than love. If you feel that the first symptoms of “love fever” are eased, you are likely to feel another thing in your heart. However incredible it may sound, His weaknesses will turn into His most appealing qualities in your eyes.

As far as I’m concerned I declare that I do love His stubbornness (which I would call determination now); his odd jokes (which I would call extraordinary now); His silence when He is in a bad mood. He would never be Himself without these “shades of character” He would be an ordinary black-and-white rather than “colourful” man like hundreds of others who are afraid to be unique.

It’s great that we are all so unique. Moreover, I’ve noticed a curious thing – I always get annoyed when people are trying to copy someone else’s manner of behavior, no matter whether it’s a single gesture or the whole lifestyle. What’s the use of pretending then to be someone else? Exchange your own rich personality either for something plain and dull? Or turn into a mere clone, a poor copy of someone who you admire and worship (such as a film star or a successful businesswoman). I’m absolutely sure you will never do better than creating your own self.

Therefore, I believe, you ought to be even more “yourself” in the presence of you beloved one thus showing your utter confidence in Him. He will definitely appreciate it!

 And I beg you to remember this saying, for the sake of your Love:

“You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear”.