Mending Relationships

I know for a fact that most people have experienced some kind of trial in their life. One of the most commonly seen and hardest to pass, is mending relationships. The breaking of a relationship begins with a argument or disagreement. Many think that it may be fixed with a simple lie, but eventually that lie will get bigger and bigger until you will be in a lot of distress! Use the following easy steps:

1. Notice the pain inside of your heart and how it is affecting you.
2. Notice how others are affected by it, in a good or bad way.
3. Recognize the problem, but don’t ponder on who caused it for this will not help and create anger.
4. Find a way to fix it (apologize, say the truth).
5. No matter what the condition, saying the truth is extremely important!
6. Then make up and the problem is solved.

Most of you are thinking: It’s easier said than done. You are right. Here are two examples that are very commonly seen:

YOUTH EXAMPLE:

Billy is a good, caring, thirteen year-old boy. In school he meets some new “friends” and decides he likes their group. In order to be excepted, he goes to parties at the pool at night. In order to get the money for pool admission, he steals from his dad’s wallet at night. He gets caught on night and is terribly sad and regrets what he has done, but enjoys his new “friends” approval. Let’s go through the steps:

1. Billy notices he wants to be excepted by both his friends and his family and regrets stealing.
2. His parents are sad and a little mad, while his friends are happy.
3. He knows it was his fault. The problem is his parents aren’t happy with him.
4. He apologizes to his family and tells his dad that he will never steal again. He also decides to get new  friends that except him the way he is, not by his wealth.

ADULT EXAMPLE:

A husband and wife argue over moving or not. They get into an intense argument and find no real answer. Both of them are very mad at each other, but don’t want to apologize yet.

1. The husband (or wife) notices he/she is sad when separated from his wife and wants to be together.
2. He notices that no one is happy, but that both of them are sad and a little angry at each other.
3. The problem is they had a argument over where to move.
4. One of them has to make the first move and apologize to the other for their behavior. Both husband and wife lay out their points on why each of them want to move or don’t want to move. They both agree eventually on who ever has the better points.

Use these steps and implement them in most broken relationships. I hope this helps you!