Modern Marriage

Why do people choose marriage in today society? Is it for financial and emotional security, social reasons the belief marriage is the right thing to do. Is it because they believe children should be raised in a two-parent family or because they believe they are in love and hope to spend their lives together? All of the above are acceptable reasons for an individual to decide to get married, however, none of them have anything to do with committing to another individual or to a marriage that will last the rest of their lives.

Marriage is not something you enter into for financial or emotional security. Marriage is expensive, emotionally draining and at time lonely. Deciding to get married because you want to raise a family is a strong argument, however, there needs to be more than just wanting to raise your children with two parents. Our society is filled with children raised with two parents who have dragged their kids through divorce. And of course there is love. What does love have to do with anything, at least the kind of love that drives people to marriage? A marriage that will last till death do us part cannot be based on the heart pounding, I need to be with you, feelings that so many people mistaken for unconditional love. The heart pounding will stop, your commitment and love for the other person has to be deeper.

We spend too much time looking for our perfect match, never seeing their flaws or looking at our own. Your perfect match is not out there, you will never find someone who will meet your every need, support you in all your choices and make your heart flutter and pound through out your life. Instead you should be looking for someone who is as committed as you are to building a life. A life two people will share.

Before you decide to get married ask yourself; Am I prepared to make the commitment, sacrifices and choices that will make this marriage a life. Am I prepared to forgive, support and stand beside this person no matter what life throws our way? Forget about the heart pounding. You need to answer these questions with your head. Look past today, see the flaws and then decide. Is this someone I will love unconditionally, someone who will live the same life I will live?

Mistakes will be made in life. You may find yourself in the wrong kind of marriage. There are marriages that simply need to be gotten out of. Committing to the wrong kind of marriage once, is a mistake. However, if you find yourself repeating your mistake, maybe you should ask yourself; Why do I feel the need to be married?