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My Best Friend Kissed Me and We’re Both Girls

What’s a girl to do when her best friend gets frisky while you’re both drunk? Is it cheating if you’re both girls and her boyfriend doesn’t mind?

The following question was posed to me by a work colleague during our morning commute:

Is it cheating if your best friend, who is also a girl, kisses you?

My co-worker, Kate, has a best friend who is quite partial to turning bi-curious whenever she is hitting the tequila bottle rather hard. As a result, Kate’s friend, Fiona, who has a boyfriend, will often become rather touchy-feely and flirtatious, even going so far as to attempt to kiss poor, innocent Kate. Kate confessed that this would make her feel rather uncomfortable and she would often make excuses not to go out with Fiona when alcohol would be involved. While I was listening to Kate’s dilemma, I couldn’t help but realise how her situation rang alarm bells with my own…       

On a few occasions, my best friend has tried to kiss me when she has been drunk. I’m a single female, but she has a boyfriend. While I don’t have any romantic feelings for her, I can’t help but feel a little apprehensive whenever she tries to kiss me, even if it is just a bit of fun to her. However, it appears that I am the only one who sees a problem with this situation. You see, her boyfriend is well aware that she likes to do this. In fact, he doesn’t bat an eyelid when she does this in front of him. Neither of them consider it to be cheating. It appears I’m the only one having a slight moral dilemma over this situation. So I ask you, is it cheating if neither partner believes it is?

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  1. neopisiva

    On May 29, 2011 at 6:24 pm

    I really don`t have the right answer for this,it never happened to me personally and I hope it stays like that.
    Good share.

  2. Joe

    On May 30, 2011 at 3:38 am

    It’s a very good question. If the other girl’s boyfriend doesn’t mind, then I don’t think it is cheating. I can’t say I’d feel the same way, however, if that were my girlfriend. This was a verry nice article.

  3. Poeta Nascitur Non Fit

    On May 31, 2011 at 1:24 am

    Often men see women as sex objects and lesser beings and as such non threatening. Many men only see other men as a threat or a valid competitor at least until their girl tells them they prefer the company of other women.

    AS a man I have never understood the fascination with girl/girl sexcapades. Unfaithfulness is unfaithfulness no matter who it is with or what their gender.

  4. Lennie

    On November 15, 2011 at 6:34 pm

    Do what you want. You only live once, I say! x

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