Newlyweds and Children: Why It Doesn’t Work

If you’re getting married or have just been married then this may be an important article for you to read. Many newly weds look forward to starting a family. This is very natural however, you may want to wait before “jumping the gun”-not only for your sake but for your child’s.

And so as we know, all marriages have a 50/50 chance of survival-and many risk factors can contribute to a higher risk of divorce. Statistics show that over 40% of first marriages end within the first 15 years. The average length of marriages is seven years. Stats also show that one in twelve marriages end within two years! That means that one of twelve people you know will be getting or have gotten a divorce just after two years. And so, if you have a child soon after your marriage, the chances are that that child will end up having two separate homes.  Half of the children born to marriages this year will witness their parents divorce by the time they are allowed to smoke.

Also, wouldn’t you rather having some time with your husband or wife before having the responsibility that comes with children. Just think about it, you will be in the honeymoon stage where all you want to do is-well you know- and don’t you want to be able to without having to worry about the baby crying or your child walking in?

The first year of marriage is the hardest. There are so many adjustments that come with it. And so many expectations from your new spouse that weren’t present pre-marriage. It is also a period of getting to know your new husband or wife. Now you may be saying, I know them-that’s why I married them, but marriage is much more of commitment and a 24/7 thing. Now all those cute little things are becoming a reality-and an irritation. You’re seeing the good, bad, and ugly. Unshaved legs, tire-marks on the underwear etc. believe me, it won’t just be rainbows and sunshine. And a child is not a solution-it’s at times, a band aid, one that will eventually peel and only have prolonged the inevitable. So get to know if this is really a life-long commitment before making that big decision.