Why is it that “nice guys finish last” a true statement?  Why is it, especially among the younger generations, that  he decent people are the ones getting trampled on by the rest?

I am a college student, so I have seen this embodied many a time, in college, high school, and even before that.  How many times does a girl goes out with the guy who soon after getting what he wants (or not getting what he wants), then turn around and does it again?  Why is it that girls are so worried about their image that they won’t go out with a guy she likes?  “Nice guys”, the guys who don’t want one-nighters, or have the utmost respect for women, are the ones who are alone.

I myself consider myself to be a nice guy.  Trust me, it sucks sometimes.  There has been a total of two girls who I’ve had a serious relationship with.  The first girl moved, the second I’ve had an on-again, off-again relationship for almost two and a half years.  She is a high school cheerleader, where a girl’s image is a big deal.  The typical break-up excuse is “high school drama” which of course means someone was saying something bad about us being together.  A few months later, she comes back to me, telling me she misses me and can’t get over me. I haven’t gotten over her either, so I cave and take her back.  The first girl I truly loved, and the longest we’ve been together is about five months.  I guess it must be something about January, because we always break up.

As we just broke up again recently, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking.  While it sucks being a nice guy, I, along with all other nice guys, must keep fighting the good fight.  We have to believe something good will come along someday and be here to stay.  I know what I should do the next time she comes back to me, it is only a question of will.  Will I be able to?  At this point I cannot tell.  I only know that someday it’ll be all good, and that my girl (whoever she may be) won’t break up with me because another girl she doesn’t even like tells her she should.  I only know I have to keep going, to stay the course, be that guy the girl who was cheated on wonders about.  I have to be the “nice guy”.