Not Arranged Marriage, It’s Called Arranged Life
by Life is full of ups and downs that are made from good times and bad. You choose who you want to be friends with and surround yourself with during your life time. You spend your life looking for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, in a marital way; someone who is your friend, that you love, and know very well.
You go through life learning from your experiences and meeting new people everyday. Even if you don’t want to admit it, deep down you are looking for the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. In some countries with different cultures when it is time for marriage they don’t have a say in who they marry. For example, in India, parents find their children’s spouses. When a college student was asked how she could go along with having her parents choose who she marries, she said she is inexperienced and that marriage is too much of an important matter for her to choose herself (Nand).
In the book A Thousand Splendid Suns, Khaled Hosseini tells a story that takes place in Afganistan and within it is an example of arranged marriage and how it is for this “family”. Jalil Khan, father of Mariam finds his daughter a suitor and didn’t inform her until the day before she was to wed him. They got married, Mariam having no say in the matter, then left to Rasheeds home, what was going to also be her home.. She didn’t know Rasheed, he was a complete stranger and she was forced to obey him, and live with him; to call him her husband. In an arranged marriages the parents who set the marriage up most likely know their child’s future spouses more than their child does. They see it as a good thing to send their child away from home to live with a complete stranger, and making them their spouse.
Obviously there are perks about arranged marriage and seems to work for some people among cultures. In an arranged marriage the two that are joined together in holy matrimony most likely share the same cultural beliefs. One of these may be that divorce is not even an option. If they have differences they are going to have to sort them out (Advantages and Disadvantages of Arranged Marriages). In America we alone have about a fifty percent divorce rate, more than other countries.Unlike other countries and their cultures it’s seldom heard of to have an arranged marriage in the US.
“Arranged marriages presuppose that two people are perfectly matched because they belong to the same culture, share the same religious upbringing, speak the same language, and raised in more or less the same socio-economic class”(Advantages and Disadvantages of Arranged Marriages). The question is though does everyone get a long with everyone in their culture that they share the same religion, language and socio-economic class with? The answer is no, they do not. And that’s human. The chances that you are going to get along with the one that you are arranged to marry is slim to none. It would mean that our world is perfect. It’s not though! This is what they say is an advantage to arranged marriages, but where is the advantage if you are not the one in a hundred that find that match in that way?
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