Not Arranged Marriage, It’s Called Arranged Life
by Life is full of ups and downs that are made from good times and bad. You choose who you want to be friends with and surround yourself with during your life time. You spend your life looking for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, in a marital way; someone who is your friend, that you love, and know very well.
Marriage before the age of eighteen is still seen today in other parts of the world. Mostly in arranged marriages. Like Marriam who was not legally an adult, Saxam says in certain rural areas in Nepal even if they are not the legal age to marry, if their parents consent they can arrange a marriage for their child at that early age. That is another aspect that is not positive; it’s like trading your child off.
The right to marry whoever one wishes is an elementary human right compared to which “the right to attend an integrated school, the right to sit where one pleases on a bus, the right to go into any hotel or recreation area or place of amusement, regardless of one’s skin or color or race” are minor indeed. Even political rights, like the right to vote, and nearly all other rights enumerated in the Constitution, are secondary to the inalienable human rights to “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” proclaimed in the Declaration of Independence; and to this category the right to home and marriage unquestionably belongs. Let’s not have our lives controlled more than they already are. Everyone should have the right to be happy and choose the way to bring them the happiness that they desire. We grow up with parents telling us what to do and parenting us, all this so that we can make the decisions we need to when we take that path into life dependently. Marrying someone who your parents choose for you is not taking the leash off of you, it is tightening it.
Life is about making mistakes and learning from them, even if something as depressing as divorce is the answer. People grow up learning how to make their own decisions so that they can make choices themselves. You are not inexperienced if you are the age to marry and find your own happiness. Hearing stories of people that have gone through arranged marriages may or may not influence other people in what they believe is the way to go about marriage. It is set in one’s culture and is defined concretely. Those who are not accustomed to arranged marriage though look at it more negatively than positive, because that is how they are accustomed and feel comfortable living.
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