Now You’ve Got Her, Now What?
by Men are the ones who have been instructed to love. But with little or no coaching, how do we know we are on the right track? What is it to love? Here, we can see from example what love truly is.
Love. A word that we, as men, have been taught to erase from our vocabularies. A word whose meaning has been so altered over the past few years that, many believe, it has ceased to exist as a real experience. Our society has so corrupted our way of thinking that our most basic needs, desires and most primal practices have been redefined to such that damage (at best) the very fabric of that which sets us apart from all other species on this planet. Love . . . a mere word.
I was told (not once, but many times) by one that I loved dearly, “True love doesn’t exist!” I would argue that it does, but I would never get anywhere with that. So, then I would prove to her that it does. I would turn out to be the most loving man she ever knew. And I loved her.
Here is a girl whose heart was shattered by the infidelity of a cheating boyfriend many times. “All men cheat,” she would tell me as she laid her head on her pillow, bitter for the actions of one. Anger drove her every day to push away a man with whom she had fallen in love. Her cold bitterness had turned her heart to stone and all hope to an un-mendable rift deep within her soul. But I loved her.
But how? How can you love one who is so bent on driving you away, and yet keeping you so close? How did she know you loved her?
It is quite simple, really. I showed it to her. You see, love is an act, not an emotion. Emotions fade into blackness and then you are left with unsurety. Actions last forever. They are ever remembered in the minds of those they affect. And thus, they continue to affect.
For her sake, I will call her Jessica. She knew that I loved her because I was always there for her. But, that was the easy part. The true test of love is that Jessica knew that, no matter what, she could come to me and say anything, and then be encouraged. Even if she walked right up to my face and suggested a physiologically impossible act.
Actions
What is the common problem most wives have with their husbands? “Make me dinner! Get me a beer! Clean my house! Help me with my bags! Do my laundry!” Essentially, “Be my slave! Be my slave! Be my slave!” Why? Because males are taught falsely that men are to be the head of the household and therefore the taskmaster of the home.
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