Obsession: Guys Who Can’t Let Go

This little section is for the ladies, who know men that just don’t get the message: “We don’t like you, we never will, so f*ck off!” Of course please don’t say it so bluntly, they are only human. Ladies I am sure you know of that one guy whom is your best friend, but he is madly in love with you, problem? You don’t like him. He’s intelligent, honest, caring, comically witty, and love every single movie you do, but you just aren’t attracted to him in that way. He is “friendized” and yet he still thinks he has a chance with you, not likely.

Based on a story told by my girlfriend with the same situation, I was shocked by how some guys are so obsessive. He has liked her for six years, can you believe that? SIX years! I really felt something a kin to admiration and respect for the guy, until I realized he was hoping for my downfall. What a douche, am I right? What else can you do ladies? My girlfriend has told him countless times that they are just friends, yet he still thinks that one day friendship can transform into love. Unless his life is a sitcom like Boy Meets World or Family Matters then that won’t be happening anytime soon.

So how do you get this annoying (but precious) friend off your back? Answer: There are many answers. There are lots of ways of dealing with this, you can find a boyfriend and hopefully his love for you will die. For him it will hurt like hell but as they say, “Wounds heal with time.” Depending on how stubborn he is, you’ll have to keep saying you don’t like him for a very long time before he gets the message. A friend of my girlfriend has liked her for six years and she has told him many times, yet he still thinks he has a chance, even with me present. Eventually if you tell him enough times, hopefully he’ll get the message. Finally, one of the cruellest methods – and this also depends on how annoyed you are with him – if you want (I personally wouldn’t consider it) you can cut your ties with him as a friend and banish him from your circle. 

Sometimes the cruellest method works best, but I’d advise not to do this. Losing a life long friend is not worth any love unless you know the love is true. A friend of mine told me once, “Love can come and go, but true friendship is eternal.” Ok that message can be contradicted in many ways, but you get the meaning right?

Even if you’re not trying to be cruel, you have to let them know that you don’t harbour such feelings for them. They need to know this so they can get on with their lives and find someone for them. Obsessing will do neither of you any good, you for getting annoyed at him constantly and him for wasting his life, chasing after something that can never be. You are intelligent, beautiful, elegant, and with a caring heart, but you have to be firm, stand your ground and say, “No”.