Office Romance Temptation: What’s a Married Woman to Do?

You see him in the elevator, in the cafeteria, walking the hallway, almost daily.  Feelings of lust fill your mind. Your body tingles in unexpected places. What’s a married woman to do? Sure, you have been married for twenty odd years and you have a great relationship with your spouse but the reality is you are first and foremost a woman. You are a woman with urges, sexual feelings and perhaps in need of some good old loving.

There may be few married women who can   deny that they do get the urge to sample forbidden pleasures once in awhile. In many cases the response may be to beat yourself up, feel guilty as though you are cheating, or to take the avoidance route. How is that working for you?  Take heart, there are some things you can do to deal with office romance temptations.

1. Determine why you are feeling the attraction.  Some reasons to explore could be; lack of attention or appreciation on the home front, unsatisfied cravings, a need to experiment, or just an unexplained attraction.
2. Explore your feelings. How do you feel?  What do you really want to do about it deep inside your soul? What is your heart telling you? Do your feel tormented or do you feel excited at the prospect, or both. Is it love? Do you still love your husband or boyfriend? Does the feeling hang on or does it go away?
3.   Consider the consequences. Is it worth it? You may have a very solid marriage. You love your husband dearly and have no intention of spoiling a good thing. Yet you have difficulty denying the urges you feel. Perhaps you play the scenario over and over in your mind. What if you can’t keep it a secret? What if it becomes too serious? What if you lose everything? What if it is your chance at real love? You need to decide how far you are willing to take the romance and how much you have to gain or lose as a result.
4. Is he willing? Does the object of your attraction return the look, attention or otherwise seem inclined to get involved with you. If you don’t have a clue then your attraction may just be a harmless crush on your part, which is less complicated and may fizzle with time.  You may try to find out all you can about this person like if he is married, in a relationship, or snores in his sleep.
5. Are you happy? If the feelings you get toward this individual makes you feel happy, feel sexy and young again, then you have probably achieved all you need to.  Harmless flirts can do wonders for your marriage, if it needs spicing up. You may find that by simply being attracted to another person, especially if it is reciprocated, makes you feel desirable and recharged, sexually. This new you could be of great benefit to your marriage or relationship.

Office romances are tempting. There is no need to feel guilty. Women do have feelings and urges same as men do. The big decision is whether to act on it or not or simply to enjoy the benefits of the attraction from afar.  Only you can decide whether having an office affair is what you want and whether it is worth it, understanding that there are consequences to every action.