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Older Women Dating Younger Men vs.. Older Men Dating Younger Women

What do you think of couples with age difference? Here is the post to discuss opinions and experiences along with celebrity, fiction and real life examples.

This is a subject that has always intrigued me.  When I was younger, I used to think people should date people their own age or people really close to their age. Now, I really couldn’t have cared less. In fact, I am in favor of dating older men (men who are 15 years older than me are OK) . Well, obviously I don’T find any older man attractive. I like a guy who is energetic but also know who he is, what he wants and is sick of playing games with the opposite sex. Plus, I think that men usually mature a little later than women. You might disagree, but all the men I know my age seem to prove this.

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Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. Age difference: 16

Now, I am not against dating younger men either. While it might seem contrary to what I say earlier, I am not against being proven wrong. Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher seem to be working out just fine. Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins (Susan was 12 years older) dated more than 20 years. Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn (Goldie is 6 years older) are still together. So it seems like I only ruled out dating people my age.

Society strangely still seems to favor men dating younger women. Well, the romantic and the feminist in me couldn’t disagree more. Obviously there is no way I’d approve a 20 year-old dating a 80 year-old, a 10 or 15 year age gap seems trivial if the couple seems to be getting along. Hell maybe even 15-20 won’t matter. But I recently watched a lovely stint on a comedy show:

A husband and wife are really having difficulty getting used to the fact that their son will bring home a girl to meet them. He is in college so they know it is time. However they are shocked when they realize the girlfriend seems a good 15 years older than him. Since this is comedy, they throw around hilarious jokes around, universally reflecting the opinions on age difference:

Dad: Really? Why did you bring your girlfriend’s mother to meet us?

Dad: Are you sure you want more salt? Maybe you want to watch the high pressure?

Dad: Our son is failing history? Why doesn’t he ask you? Did you meet Ataturk (the most respected Turkish leader- who died in 1938)

While you laugh your head off, it makes you think. Then the guy’s uncle comes over. He seems to think that this is a prank. He even calls the woman “stale”. But guess what kind of girls the uncle is into? High school girls!  

Another fun example that you might have caught on TV is Courtney Cox’s show Cougar Town. The show is fun and you can read my review here. But, to directly talk about our topic: In the show Courtney plays a 40-something-hottie of a single mom. She is newly divorced and nothing is holding back from dating. Although there is one issue: The men her age are either married or they are dating much younger women, including her newly divorced hot neighbor Grayson. And younger men seem to find older women hot and intriguing. So she starts dating younger men.

So I want to know what you think? Would you date someone much younger? Older? Have you ever dated someone younger/older? I once dated a 32-year-old when I was 21 and it was so much fun.

Or what kind of men/women would you break your own rules for?  Yes, celebrity examples count. We need to visualize, right?

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  1. Atanacio

    On May 13, 2010 at 11:08 am

    a very well written article

  2. zoeyclark

    On May 13, 2010 at 1:10 pm

    thanks, atanacio.

  3. Anuradha Ramkumar

    On May 13, 2010 at 1:23 pm

    Beautifully written. I think it doesn’t matter whether your partner is younger or older to you but what really matters is how much level of understanding you both has. Well…this is my opinion.

  4. VTech

    On May 13, 2010 at 9:35 pm

    good post

  5. Christine Ramsay

    On May 14, 2010 at 3:12 am

    I don’t think it should matter as long as you are comfortable with one another. My hubby is twelve years older than me and we manage well. An interesting write.


  6. zoeyclark

    On May 14, 2010 at 4:47 am

    @ Anuradha: Thanks. Exactly. I am still waiting to find that level of understanding.

    @ Chrisitne: I can imagine. 12 years totally sounds ok to me as long as you get along:)

  7. Steve Weitzner

    On May 14, 2010 at 7:33 am

    Enjoyed your article.

  8. zoeyclark

    On May 14, 2010 at 12:41 pm

    @ thanks, steve.

  9. Starpisces

    On May 14, 2010 at 10:20 pm

    very interesting article again. I think should be okay, but not too far apart… for example eg. 18 vs 50 or …. 80….hehe…
    I think not more than 20 years difference…. er….. depends on individual….some mature earlier than another…

  10. GWitt

    On May 16, 2010 at 10:55 pm

    Love should have no age barriers. Nice article!

  11. zoeyclark

    On May 18, 2010 at 9:59 am

    @ Starpisces: Couldn’t agree more. More than 20 is just too much. I think if you are a good match,15 seems even reasonable.

    @ GWitt: Thanks. I totally agree:)

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