On Line Dating First Meeting Can be Very Stressful: What Can You Do?
You have butterflies in the pit of your belly and you’re hoping to begin a relationship and you haven’t a clue what is going to take place. Put your best foot forward and ask for guidance as the clock winds down but go in with the notion of it being fun will help relieve that hollow feeling in your stomach.
As difficult as on line dating can be, by far the toughest part is that initial meeting. You get yourself showered, put on your best perfume if you’re a woman and of course you want to dress for the occasion and impress. How far do you want the date to go or the relationship for that matter?
Anticipation is more than waiting for ‘Ketchup’ to seep out of a bottle, it is the feeling in the pit of your stomach when you see the other person face to face for the first time ever!
If you have good vibrations when chatting or talking on the phone with your prospective date that is a huge plus and at least you should get along in conversation when meeting but unfortunately this is not always the case. It is a very uncomfortable feeling when you are sitting in a restaurant and opposite you is a complete stranger that you didn’t ever imagine would be like they are.
Never mind that so many people are shallow and have to lie about their appearance in some way or another, that alone is telling you they can not be trusted and trying to start ANY kind of relationship built from the foundation of lies is destined to fail!
What does a person do when finding them self in this type of situation? You probably want to be polite and having to sit through an entire meal or even coffee or a donut with somebody that you know there will never be a connection with. Do you excuse yourself and say you have to get going? Is honesty the best policy here? You know in your heart that this meeting was a waste of time and you would love to get up and go home.
Believe it or not when you find your in a most compromising position as mentioned, I have found diplomacy and honesty is without equal and will tell the other party that I respect them too much to take up more of their time because I do not have any strong desire to sit here and try to pretend that I am having a good time when I am NOT!
Life is too short to play this type of game and trying to convince your self to stay put in when your insides are begging to be some where else is also unhealthy and can cause more stress than you want or need. You may think that it is more stressful to try and extricate your self from this type of situation but it is harder to make believe you are having a good time when in truth your stomach is churning and you can’t wait for the Date to be over!
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