On-line Dating:a Socially Acceptable Way to Meet?

How many people do you know that have met their husband or wife through an online dating service? Chances are, you do know someone, whether they admit it or not.

I was out the other evening and ran into an attractive lady in the bathroom who somewhat embarrassingly confessed that she was on a date with someone she met online. My response of “How exciting!” encouraged her to tell me more, and to offer some encouragement to quell her nerves.

Why are we so embarrassed to admit meeting partners or dates online? I say “why not?” Just take it for what it is: a way to meet new people. Plus, it has worked for many across the country so why not you?

The truth is that internet dating is now not only a great way to meet new people, but it is more socially acceptable! The statistics easily available estimate that anywhere from 27 to 40 million people have used or use the internet for meeting people (abcnews.go.com and U.S. News & World Report )

Most likely that number is even larger now. Some basic tips from those who have found the golden ticket (great dates, marriage, partners) admit they were open to the experience. They were not dearching for model-types or Mr. or Ms. Perfect. Maybe expectations have a lot to do with it, but here are some tips:

1. Don’t judge too harshly by the picture. Sure you need to weed out some that are simply out of the question, but keep an open mind. After all, do you really look exactly like that picture you posted?
2. Now, give a second look! How important are looks to you? It seems to me that the older I get, the less important physical looks are to many of us. We forgive a little cellulite, bad hair day, etc. Take a second look at some you would immediately cut from your black book at first glance. These are the ones my friends tell me are diamonds in the rough- and they are real people.
3. Try for compatibility. If you feel strongly against smokers, then don’t accept a date. Look for similar interests first, then weed out the incompatible.
4. Give a date a second chance. Just because he or she did not knock your socks off does not mean there is no potential or “chemistry.” Besides, aren’t there people you know who become more attractive the better you get to know them? The same can be true and the person more relaxed on date number two.
5. Be safe. Follow your instinct and meet in a safe place That way, if the date is a success, you can take it from there!

Finally, don’t take rejection personally. If someone you’re interested in doesn’t feel the same, move on. After all, there are millions more on line daters out there! I say the more the merrier!