One Night Stands and Dating

One night stands are apart of dating and forming relationships. Men will always like to love em and leave em.  Not every man a woman meets will be her soul mate or every man that she copulates with will want to stay with her. It is a road that ninety percent of women have travelled and about sixty percent voyage down that road over and over again: these are the women who never have a boyfriend only succession of one night stand. 

For some women getting over a one night stand is easy especially if she is conversant with such dating and relationship ritual.  For others like myself, a one night stand seems like the worst dating scenario and the ramifications may handicapped or exacerbate our dating experiences for the rest of our short existence.  One night stands are evident in western cultures and initiating relationships.  Women love the spontaneity of the sexual experience and men relish the idea of their inflated egos ballooning on copping the pussy crown so early.  

For men one night stands represent the very devaluation of the feminine imperatives. Women cherish and validate sexual experiences than men.  Ninety percent of men will have sex with a woman that he has no feelings for while when compared with women only thirty percent of women will have sex with a man she has feelings for and have no remorse if the relationship ends after the first night of intercourse.

 I understand that people are free spirited and not everyone esteems coitus but we should consider the emotional and psychological impact of one night stand. People who engage in one night stands successively are ill developed at relationships. Men who perpetuate one night stand may be just exhibiting primitive responses to the modern ideals of sexuality which denounces promiscuity and embraces copular relationships and exclusivity.  

There are people who do not want the barriers and restrictions that come along with commitment. One night stand is a way of getting your sexual needs fulfilled without the added baggage of having a long standing committed relationship with all its throes and woes!  No one needs the drama that comes along with relationship.

This stance on relationship maybe great for those with maverick precepts about love, life and dating but for traditional individuals who validate kindred relationships, intimacy and closeness, one night stands may not be the best way to go about relationships. Do not engage in a perceived one nightstand with the hope that the tides will turn and he will want a relationship. The repercussions will tear you apart.

Additionally if you are not the free, wild, untamed ‘meet em and leave em’ take it slow and concentrate on you.  Be careful and do not make mistakes. People who engage in one night stands often think about themselves than the person that they are with. For them it’s like visiting a restaurant.  They will forget your face and your name.  So it makes no sense to subject yourself to such casual relations, if you cannot deal with the aftermath feelings that may engulf you which will range from guilt to stoic.

If it’s already happened, do not worry…it makes no sense to beat yourself up over it. You made a mistake. Believe me we all do. The only reasons you should be feeling stressed out over a one night stand is if you got pregnant or you caught a sexually transmitted disease. Other than that there is absolutely no reason to be hanged up on it, since the person you did it with has probably forgotten about you already. For a serial one nighter each conquest is remembered with no originality. He only sees himself in the action; he rarely remembers who he did it with.  So don’t waste time maudlin over your conqueror. Just ensure that it does not happen again.