I am a Christian, so divorce goes against everything I believe in. Someone should be careful deciding to get married.

Ask yourself the following questions:

1. Can I see myself with this person until the day either I or they die?
2. Will I love him or her if they become sick, overweight, etc?
3. Will he or she love me if I get sick, overweight, etc?
4. Does he or she really love me or love what I can do for him or her?
5. Will he or she be faithful to me? (If they are not faithful now, marriage will not change that.)

Reasons I might approve of divorce:

1. Abuse (first try counseling, but leave if it does not stop.).
2. Infidelity (if he or she asked for forgiveness, forgive. If it happens more then once and counseling does not stop the cheating, leaving is up to you.).
3. Child abuse; if you find that your spouse is abusing your child physically, try counseling if possible, but in all things put your child’s safety first. If the abuse is sexual, leave.

Hard times are not a valid reason to get a divorce. All marriages have hard times, most marriages recover from those moments and it is because of stubborn people who refuse to give up. Fighting never gets the problems in a marriage solved.

I have seen marriages that have last 30+ years and one of the main reasons for the long lasting relationship is simple things like:

• Love
• Patience
• Understanding
• Listening

I see so many younger people getting married just to be married or getting married to stop the fighting. Since when does marriage stop the fighting? That is like deciding to have a child to save an already dead marriage. How is that fair to the child? That is way too much pressure to place on an innocent child.

I like a lot of friends from high school that are married now. Each of those friends got married for varied reasons. Not all those reasons were good ones either, but I choose not to judge them for it.

For the most part I completely disagree with the idea of divorce, except for the reasons that I mentioned above. I know my parents did not always get along, furthermore my mom left my dad one night and walked toward the home of her parents. She was about a mile from their home when she remembered the advice that an older Christian woman had given her before my mom got married and it was simply, “You do not get married with the option of divorce. You will have hard times, but you can’t run from them, you have to face them. Divorce is Satan’s way of ruining the pureness of love.”

I thank the lady everyday because without her I would not be here to be writing a blog, going to college or be a Christian.

I choose to wait until I find the man God made for me. I refuse to settle for just any guy who will have me. I also refused to get married with any idea of divorce in my plan.

I do not judge people who have or will have a divorce, that decision is between them and God, only He has the righteousness to judge.