Other Factors Affecting Relationships

The dating and relationship game maybe considered hard work, and guess what… it is! You must always be checking to ensure you are not sending the wrong signals to the person you hope to develop a long-term relationship with. Wrong signals can derail a relationship quicker than anything else. Signals are not only verbal, but also through body language. In other words you may say one thing but your facial expressions and body language suggest just the opposite. Be very careful and if you one of those persons whose face shows every emotion, learn to keep a straight face not smiling or showing anger or any other emotion.

Some people will give a negative answer to a question but be unable to look the other person in the face. This is signaling a yes instead of a no. Others have the problem of turning red when asked a particularly personal question and they really don’t want to answer. Your face has already spoken that you are uncomfortable with the question. Then, there are the people whose body will take on a very rigid posture when asked about a previous relationship gone sour. This signaling there are some unresolved issues over that relationship and they are unable to discuss it without getting upset.

When dating and looking for a long-term relationship, resolve any issues from previous relationships so it does not come back as accusations. We tend to base our feelings on things that have happened to us from a previous relationship. There could be a valid reason why the person is acting in a certain way, which has nothing to do with what you endured previously. Instead of being accusatory, be willing to discuss the problem you are having with the person. People are not mind readers and cannot know all that you have experienced. Only provide enough information to get the gist of why you are unhappy over a situation. Too much information could signal that you have not resolved the issues that put a stop to the other relationship.

You think you have the right person so what do you do to keep them. Coming on too strong will likely scare them off but taking them too lightly says you are not interested. The results are the same, good bye. Temper your words so as not to damage the person’s ego and if at a later time you meet again, that meeting could result in some favorable recollections. First time meetings do not necessarily mean it is the only time you come into the orbit of that special someone. If you leave them with a pleasant recollection of the time you spent together it is more likely you will have something to build on later on. Think in terms of longevity when you meet someone new. They may not fit the bill for a relationship, but they could possibly turn out to be a very good friend. One good friend is far more valuable than a hundred relationships that go nowhere.