Passion in Relationships

Passion in Relationships

In a couple of months my marriage will turn 2 years old. It blows my mind to think that more than a year has flown by when it actually feels like just 6 months. At the risk of my wife’s objection I will admit that I am a ‘touchy-feely’ husband; in other words, physical touch is a major ‘love language’ of mine. Even in public I like to hold her hand or drape my arm over her shoulder. And when people see this, knowing we’re newly married, they always have to make some pansy comment about how ‘cute’ newly-weds or recently married couples look.

At first this would always make me wonder if people just liked saying that because they didn’t really expect to see anything in couples that have been married a while. That is until I noticed the ‘aura’ myself. I noticed that there was an ‘aura’ about newly married couples that seems more prominent than in the ‘married for a while’ couples. And to make matters worse, I even noticed that the ones who had been married for a while almost had a bored/tired look on their face. As have done millions of young people in the past, I dare not be arrogant and say “that will never happen to me!” But I freely admit that I fear it might and I don’t want that. Recently in reply to one of my enthusiastic statements about the joys of marriage, an older woman retorted “Well, it’s only been a year. You just wait till about 5 and then we’ll see if you say the same thing!” While that statement annoyed me, it made me realize that she had only voiced something that was so obviously common and apparent in relationships she had seen around her.

I had always known that the reason for the ‘aura’ stemmed from the love or passion that existed in a relationship. Secular relationship gurus call it the ‘spark’. SO what makes this spark disappear after a couple of years? Being no expert myself, I humbly lay down a few reasons that I think are the main reasons that cause the ‘aura’ or ‘spark’ to disappear: -