Passion: To Argue or Not to Argue

Passion. What is passion? When googled the as Definition: The state of the mind when it is powerfully acted upon and influenced by something external to itself; the state of any particular faculty which, under such conditions, becomes extremely sensitive or uncontrollably excited; any emotion or sentiment (specifically, love or anger) in a state of abnormal or controlling activity; an extreme or inordinate desire; also, the capacity or susceptibility of being so affected; as, to be in a passion; the passions of love, hate, jealously, wrath, ambition, avarice, fear, etc

Falling in love provokes passion even in the quiet and shy. Suddenly you feel slightly out of control and not as mature. You kind  lose control of your sensibilities and the heart truly rules the head. Just the touch of the object of your passion can electrify your being and you feel like you are being awoken from a long sleep.  For some this passion as time goes by morphs into other types of behaviour. Jealousy, heated arguments even physical confrontation. I have heard about couples who supposedly never fight. Being an individual with opinions and emotions i find this hard to believe. My partner and i argue passionately and with gusto. We create drama and excitement in each other. We learn like a kaleidoscope that we are constantly evolving beings. We constantly surprise each other in our individuality and our different takes on the world.

But passion has to be countered by the calm before the storm too. Too much turbulence and the ride gets bumpy and stomach churning until eventually you have to get off in the name of self preservation.

So i believe that some arguing is good for a relationship, it keeps the whole show on its toes and scares away the complacency and numbness which are often silent killers of relationships. You know the scenario. A couple split to the sounds of friends and family saying “but they never argued, they seemed so happy”. They are the couples who just drifted apart because there was no passion. No collective passion of mind, body or soul.