Physical Intimacy: Why Men Cheat

Tiger Woods. Jesse James. David Letterman. CHEATERS.

Women, even though they are bored with their physical relationship with a man, are still less likely than a man to cheat. There is less of a need of emotional intimacy in men. Men often cite that they strayed from their girlfriend/wife because she “didn’t understand” him or meet his emotional needs. If it’s all emotional though, then why are these men having freaky sex with young attractive women? One reason is that men have a need of sexual variety.

Men watch too much porn. They get these crazy notions about what is sexy and what is desirable. The porn industry is targeted almost directly towards men with no inclination at all about the woman’s enjoyment of a sexual act. Men have unconventional fantasies that they might not feel comfortable sharing with their girlfriend/wife. A man might cheat to fulfill an unsatisfied sexual urge. Having fantasies is perfectly normal. Talk to your partner. They might be more open to need ideas than you think.

Men: Women take more than a minute to warm up. You can’t put a biscuit in the oven without preheating it.  A woman will enjoy sex and want to have more sex if it is satisfying. A woman needs both physical and emotional attraction to have a fulfilling sex life. So put a little romance into the equation, it’s not a lot of effort but it has the potential for amazing results. Make a woman feel sexy and desirable and she will want to have sex.

Sex for a man is physical. Men are biologically engineered to procreate, seek out as many partners, and rid themselves of as much genetic material as possible. This is another reason men cheat. Men can’t control their biological urges. Men are weak creatures who see life in only the short term. They don’t consider the reparations that one night could have on their life, their family, and their future. It is easy to say that if a man really loves you then he will put your feelings above his physical needs. However, a man is a man, and man is an animal. Sex ranks right up there with water, shelter, and food. It’s important.

 I’m not saying forgive a man for cheating, because the worst part about cheating is the lies. It’s hard to be committed to someone who lacks honesty. It’s hard to forgive. Just remember, unless he did it to spite you, he wasn’t intentionally trying to hurt you. Also, you did nothing wrong so don’t take fault for his stupidity.

Cheating for some men is a result of self-esteem issues. Men have to go through a “player” phase young in life so that they can “sow their wild oats.” If a man does not go through this phase then later in life, usually after marriage, he will have regrets about not being sleeping with multiple women. These regrets could lead to him being unfaithful. Ask a man what his intentions are, make sure he is in it for the long haul, and ask him to be forward with you about what he wants and needs in the bedroom.