If you’re single and looking for love or just “Ms. Right Now”, these are some basic rules that you should follow.

Rule number one; always know what you want before you jump into something.

As an example, you don’t want to pick a Ms. Right Now only to discover that after you wine and dine her, you’ve begun the process of dating.

This leads to the second and most important rule of dating.  Always be honest with the lady up front.  If you just want to fool around, then be honest and respectful.  Nothing is worse than a jerk who acts like he’s looking for a relationship, when he really only wants a one night stand.  Believe me, when I say that there is always a woman who is looking for the same thing.  There is never a reason to lie about your expectation for the evening as you want someone who is on your level and can match your intensity.

Rule number three; always treat the lady with respect.  Being a gentleman will not only score you extra credit points in her eyes, but you’ll find that she’ll be open to your truthfulness and your thoughtful gestures.  Open the door for her wherever you go.  Say her name, while you look at her and not just her body.

Always remember that despite what your grandparents and maybe even your parents believe in, you have to remain truthful to yourself, above all else.

So, what happens if “Ms. Right Now” becomes “Ms. Once in a While”?  There are rules for that too.

First one being, if you want to remain “bed buddies” then there is always going to be that “what if she wants more?” question in your head.  Be honest, and talk with her to make sure you’re still on the same page.  There’s nothing worse than her feelings becoming involved, or vice versa when the other person is still just being “friends with benefits”.

Secondly, keep in mind that she may have more than one “special friend”, and if you are one among many, don’t get caught up in the moment.  Always use protection, for both you and her safety.  For one thing, diseases are an unfortunate part of the casual hookup, and so is an unwanted pregnancy. 

This leads to rule three; always think with your head, and not your heart.  For a woman her heart often lies between her legs, and she will fall in love with you, unless you remind her brain that you are not into serious relationships.  It’s said that a woman can fall in love within a few heartbeats, but a man falls in love when he allows the relationship to go deeper than sex.  If you realize too late, that you are beginning to commit to your lady, then it’s time to have another talk with her, and share what you’re feeling. 

It’s not being soft, it’s being honest, and sometimes that the hardest thing to be.