Problems and Prospects During Courtship

                      It has dawn on so many successful people that they will ever live to remember their time of courtship even after their marriage life. That is why we always witness towering arguments whenever there is a forum for courtship or incidental marriage. Without waste of time, let me set the ball rolling on the problems and prospects of long courtship encountered by a girl before the actual marriage. Marriage is like music, some people prefer high tune while the rest like to play it cool. Whatever is the preference, the advantages and disadvantages are applicable in both parties. A man and  a woman  may have  a perfect chance  to study  each other  and know the likes and dislikes of  one another ‘s principles ,  in order  to  understand  whether  the would  be wife is hostile  in her way  of approach  or the other type  who always expects  bread from heaven.

                         After the tuition which is the period  of courtship , the necessary  protocol  for marriage  begins, but  before  this time  disadvantage may come  in at the last stage of tuition. Probably  when one might  have made  the last introduction to his family that Miss X is  going to  be his wife  as from next month, disappointments sometimes  occur a week  before the schedule time. Some people train their would-be partners in schools and universities at last the proposed marriage become hope against hope. Then whoever is the victim in such affairs lives with everlasting hurt feelings and regrets especially for the time wasted on the trial and error game. On several  occasions, many  people  have attempted  to create  heaven within matrimonial  home  by means  of better  choice  of partners , but  behold , some  expectations always  return to square zero.  how   many times of ” have I known” have occurred  for those  who expect  to marry  angels  or the “money  is not  my problem” husbands and wives  respectively, but at last  problems galore. At times , some men  who are not fortunate  to choose  their fiancées  become biased  against  their fellow  men  who have succeeded  in picking  good  future  partners. By so doing  they deceive  some  of the  chosen  female  folks  by vain promises  of giving  them “heaven and earth ” on the wedding day  if only  Miss X can slip  off the former man  courtship. There are still other courtships by foul means practiced by men. For example, if a girl is in need of employment they will present an ‘oppournity cost’ before offering her a job “provided you are ready to marry me, there is a job for you.” Since a beggar has no choice, courtship begins without serious thought whether the partner is a suitor indeed.