Problems with Getting Back with Your Ex
by Getting your ex back depends on various things. The real reason you broke up to begin with, how you both have handled things since and how you both have acted towards each other since – just to name a few.
How Can My Ex and I Get Back Together? Now there’s a hairy question. And one you have probably already asked everyone you know, including the postman. well for starters, there are a great variety of variables involved here. Like, the reason you broke up – was it for some trivial reason, a misunderstanding, or just one of those “little” things, that finally blew up out of all proportion? Or, for something serious, like infidelity, drug or alcohol abuse, violence, etc? Maybe you have only lasted this long, due to social pressure? Along with this, when you broke up was it an amicable break-up, or filled will bitterness and tit-for-tat?
Passive Problems
Well, let us look at these things first. If your break-up was over something or ‘things relatively harmless, like a misunderstanding, or a build up of things that ultimately caused an explosion – provided you are both prepared to work towards a united goal of reconciliation, then you do have a chance. Probably the greatest challenge you must face here, is for you both to admit that you both, played a part in the downfall of your relationship. The partner who adamantly states that they never complained, nor joined in on an argument – has contributed no less to the current situation, this is a form of emotional blackmail. NOT contributing to these situations, then wondering why they keep escalating, or your partner has stopped talking to you – is because YOU are not communicating. Your partner either becomes more and more frustrated, raising the volume each time, possibly saying hurtful things – just trying to get “some” response; or just retreats and stops responding at all. The “quiet” one will now commonly think “What is it NOW”
Maybe you can’t stand peas, balloons, or clowns, whatever it is – and you continually have to “endure” something that you despise, because your partner has no idea and brings pea eating, clowns draped in balloons home every night – if you never say anything, unless you know for certain that your partner can read minds, you are looking down the barrel of a destroyed relationship. And it will be down to YOU. I do not care how goodly you may “think” you are, both partners, in some fashion, play this game. In any relationship, BOTH partners must “learn” to communicate.
There are many ways around these sort of problems, but it all starts with communicating, then, find out how to solve it, there are plenty of books out there and of course the internet – go, DO something, be proactive.
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