If you are serious about marriage (supposing you are going to be a groom), I don’t think you will keep silent when staying with your bride. There must be some questions that you want to ask her. Silly questions may spoil your relationship, which leads to a breakup. Wise questions can accelerate the marriage date, or at least, you can gain her heart more firmly.

What are the best questions to ask before marriage? Actually, your aim is to know if she truly loves you, and if she is the right person for you. Every one knows that marriage out of money usually is not happy. So, you may want to know if your bride is for your money. It is not wise to ask questions to know about it. Therefore, choice the right time and under right situation, bring forth your right questions.

Do not ask the questions very formally–it is not in a church for your wedding ceremony. Do not let her know that you ask the questions with a purpose. It should be a very common conversation. Don’t ask questions like this: “Do you love me or my money?” Silly question, isn’t it? If you really want to know about it, you’d better say it this way: “Dear, if I am as poor as a church mouse, how long do you think our love can last?” She will take it seriously, and give you a more reliable answer.

With this strategy in mind, you may ask questions on the following topics:

1. True Love
2. Family
3. Career
4. Hobbies and Habit
5. Views of Life

I think questions related to these topics are the best questions to ask your bride, because the questions will help to know if a marriage can last long. For your reference, here are the best questions I think that you should ask your bride.

1. If I am as poor as a church mouse, do you want to marry me, and how long do you think our love can last?

This question is to be asked jokingly, but you can let your bride think it seriously. True love is the base of a good marriage. No true love, no happy marriage. So, this is a very good question for your bride.

2. When do you want to have children, and how many do you want to have?

This question is to see if she loves children, and we know that children are the ties between husband and wife of a happy family. What’s more, a family is not considered to be complete without children. You have to let her know that children are the fruit of marriage.

3. Have you considered the conflicts between your career and family?

Also, this is a serious question about marriage. This question is not to seek a satisfying answer. It is to have you bride to think about the marriage more realistically. Marriage and family mean responsibilities.

4. What kind of sports and pets do you like? Any hobby?

This question is to find the common interests between you and your bride. Though you may already know about her hobby or habit, it is better to let her know that you care about her hobby and habit. These kinds of things are like spices to dishes, for they can add color to your life after marriage, and your bride will sense your care of her.

5. What do you think the life after our marriage would be?

This is, also, a question not for proper answers. It is just help your bride to think twice on the marriage, and take the marriage seriously.

The best questions to ask your bride are to let her know that you care about your love and family after marriage. More important, you should let her know that you care about her, meanwhile, you can know that if she is serious. Right?

Are you going to be a bride, and have you prepared some questions for your groom to answer? There must be some questions that you want to ask him. However, silly questions may spoil your relationship, while wise questions can help you to know if you are going to marry with a right person for you. What are the best questions to ask him before marriage? Actually, your aim is to know if he truly loves you, and if he is a responsible person, or you may want to know if he would help to do housework and take care of children, etc. The following are the questions for your reference:

1. Do you love my appearance or my personality more?

   Though you are a woman and you care much about if the groom is satisfied with your appearance, it is more important to know if he loves your personality more. Beauty is skin deep, and every one will grow old. After your prime years, you will not as beautiful as you are now sooner or later. If the bride loves your appearance only, and pays no attention to your personality, it would be a dangerous thing for you to marry him. Personality is more important to a successful marriage. If he likes your personality, the marriage can be a life-time one. Of course, you need to love his personality, too. Otherwise, change a person to be your groom. This is a way to see if there is a true love between you and your groom.

2. How can I know if you are a responsible person?

   Most of the brides care much about this question, because responsibilities are the most important part of a marriage and family. Especially, you may care about if he will cheat you on marriage later. Surely, you cannot bear if he sleeps with another woman a few days after your marriage. Do not ask the questions very formally and do not let him know that you ask the questions with a purpose. So, you need to ask him this question when he has no preparations for your conversation. He will surely try to show you that how much he cares about you, and what he will do to show that he is a responsible person. You can judge according to what he says to tell if he is a reliable person.

3. Do you think which is more important, money or love?

   It seems a silly question. However, it isn’t. At least, your question can make him think what true love is. Everyone knows that marriage couldn’t be happy if it is out of money only. Especially if you are a rich lady, it is important to ask this question for him to answer before he knows that you has a lot of money. You can pretend that you are in need of money, if you think it is necessary. Choice the right time and under right situation, bring forth this question for him to answer. Remember, you are choosing a person to be your life-time partner. Do not ask the questions very formally–it is not in a church for your wedding ceremony. It should be a very informal conversation. I suggest that you shouldn’t ask questions like this: “Do you love me or my money?” Silly question, isn’t it? If you really want to know about it, you’d better say it this way: “Dear, if I am as poor as a church mouse, how long do you think our love can last?” He will take it seriously, and give you a more reliable answer. With this strategy in mind, you can ask a question like this to know if he is a person cares money more than love.

4. When do you want to have children, and how many do you want to have?

   This question is suitable for both the bride and the groom. You need to decide when you want to have children. More specifically, you have to decide when you want to have your first child with him after marriage. It will affect your career most likely. You have to think about it, too. It is a discussion with him rather a question for him to answer. Also, you can discuss with him about how many children you will have. You can tell if he can plan his life and career well by this question. Actually, it should be a mutual decision, and together, you plan your family life and career.

5. What’s are your attitudes towards career?

Besides the questions on true love and family life, career is anther important topic. You should know if he is financially capable to support your possible family with him. Of course, a successful career can bring in money to support the family. This is a serious question on marriage, not to seek a satisfying answer, but to have you groom to think about the marriage more realistically. Though money is not everything, it is something, and it means a lot to a happy family.

The questions related to these topics, I think, are the best questions to ask your groom to answer. Marriage and family mean responsibilities. It is wise to know if your groom cares about you and the family with him after marriage.