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Quit a Rebound Relationship While You Can

Rebound relationships are unhappy relationships and the best you can do if you are in a rebound relationship is to quit while you can.

Breakup is a tough time and rebound relationships are one of the most common post break up mistakes. Many people are scared to death by the idea that they are single, even though being single has so many benefits on its own, not to mention when compared to the nightmares of an unhappy relationship you can’t break from.

When you have recently been dumped by somebody you loved a lot, hooking with the first person who is interested in you might seem the solution to your problem, but it isn’t. Rebound relationships are like taking a pain killer against a toothache, while what you need to do is go to the dentist.

Rebound Relationships are Unhappy Relationships from the Very Start

When people start a rebound relationship, usually they are willing to make all sorts of compromises. One of the common signs of a rebound relationship is that you don’t love your rebound date but you are not alone. In the beginning, this is enough. You aren’t happy with your rebound date but without him or her you will be (probably) unhappier. In a sense, you are happy with whatever you get.

However, if you or your rebound date expect that this unhappiness is just in the beginning, get down to Earth. Don’t hope you will start to love your rebound date someday. You might get used to each other but love will never come.

Rebound Relationships Don’t Improve With Time

Many people start a rebound relationship with the idea that this is just the way to forget an ex and that the rebound relationship won’t last forever. However, sometimes a rebound relationship turns to be very similar to drug addiction – the first doses are free, but then you pay the hefty bill.

Sometimes it is not easy to figure out you are in a rebound relationship. It is especially hard the first time this happens to you. If you don’t know the signs of rebound relationships, you might even be completely unaware of the fact that your relationship is a rebound one.

Very often people hope that a rebound relationship improves with time. Though there might be such cases, usually it is just the opposite – the longer you are together, the unhappier you get. At some moment in time you reach the point of no return, when you can’t get out at all, no matter how hard you try.

That is why it is best to terminate a rebound relationship as soon as you can and while you can. The longer you postpone, the harder it becomes to quit. This applies to both the cases when you are in a rebound relationship but also to the cases when you feel you are a rebound gal/guy. Quit the rebound relationship as soon as you can and move forward. Life is too short to waste it in long term unhappy relationships!

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  1. Skip Johnson

    On July 20, 2009 at 9:34 pm

    You state that a rebound relationship is one where someone has broken up with you, and you begin dating someone else fairly soon thereafter. What about where you broke up with the other person, then began dating someone else?

    I dated a girl for five years, was engaged to her for four days, then did what I should have done at least three years earlier–broke up with her permenently. I went back to college that year intending to date as widely as I could to “make up for lost time”, the five years I’d been out of circulation due to the previous relationship. Only there was this girl who had come on campus that I had dated once our first year in high school in another state. Last time I’d seen her, she was on the arm of the “Prince of the Campus”–the guy who was student body president, senior class president, boy’s club president, honors floor monitor, captain of the basket ball team, and shoo in for future doctor even as a high schooler. When I saw her on his arm, I thought, “I do not envy him any of his accomplishments. But I do envy him, her.” Never thought I’d have a chance at such an elegant and reserved beauty, but there she was on campus a few days before school began.

    I called saw her on the sidewalk, and said hello. I thought, “In a few days 1,500 woman hungry guys will be flooding onto campus. If I don’t speak now, I’ll never get a chance…” So I called her up and asked her on our first date. We went minature golfing with my best friend and his wife. I lost the game, but got the girl. I held hands with her in the backseat on the way back to campus.

    I was still getting over the girl I’d gone with five years, however. Even though it had been me who had broken up with her, and I knew I didn’t wish to resume the relationship, being with someone that long, then breaking it off, took some adjusting to. When my heart finally quit being numb, I discovered I was already in love with the girl I had begun dating. I told her so. We were married about a year later.

    We will have been married 29 years the end of this August. I love her like my next breath. If she was a rebound, I’m glad I caught her. She ended up being even better than I had hoped, and is definately the girl I’d looked at, longed for, but never thought I had a chance at ever having.

  2. Rebound Date

    On September 27, 2009 at 4:06 am

    I’ve once had a short rebound relationship and it was very bad. I was also a rebound date 2 or 3 times and it was equally unpleasant. You see that the relationship doesn’t work but you can’t figure out why.

  3. mnwrite

    On September 29, 2009 at 10:37 am

    Hi Skip Johnson,

    Sorry for my late reply but I somehow didn’t notice your comment when it was published and that’s why I didn’t answer.
    Yours is not a rebound relationship – you broke with somebody you DIDN’T love to hook up with somebody better. Yours is an upgrade! :) And congratulations for the longevity of your love! :) You are a lucky guy! :)

  4. Jeffrey Torres

    On March 4, 2011 at 4:15 pm

    Haha, I wrote the exact opposite.

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