Reconnect with The Narcissist From a Position of Control

                        Reconnect with the narcissist but from a position of control

Ok the narcissist is back and I am still in love with him. I cannot seem to detach myself from this unremitting, malevolent handsome character. I am fascinated by this beautiful shell but I loathe its contents. It looks like champagne, but it is a poison. But I want that champagne bottle; I want to put it on my shelf so that everyone can see that I possess champagne. A real gem. I want a sheep but I know he is a wolf; I want to show everyone that I can morph a wolf into sheep.  I can change him. I have sufficient love in me for the both of us. I love for him and love for myself. I can handle him. He will wake up one day and changed from a frog to a prince if I kissed him superfluously.  He will change into a sheep when I domesticate him and he will become the perfect father and spouse.

Women do have relationships with narcissistic men but it is often from a position of control, maverick and high self concept. If you have a fragile ego and labile self worth, do not pursue a relationship with a narcissist. Your frailty makes it easy for him to destroy you.  You need strength of character and high levels of self respect to have a relationship with a narcissist.  Do not allow him to isolate you from your friends and family. This is to generate a level of dependency on him. You become reliant on him for protection and affirmation. Your vulnerability to his influence and repression is improved two folds.

Additionally, you should always have what he wants. If he desires a remarkable physique then you must be willing to ensure that your physical attractiveness is always fallible. If he is a pecuniary narcissist, you should ensure that you are always making money because once the money is gone, rest assure he is looking for another loaded female. If he wants a trophy wife then you must be willing to be a trophy wife.  You must be ready to be the perfect spouse, that’s a tall order since perfection is basically unattainable.

Are you willing to go through life, endeavoring to be an ideal that is intrinsically utopia? 

Are you willing to support an individual so as to make him stay with you?

What if you have a baby and your body changes?

 Could you handle the dereliction?

What if you lose your job?

What will you do to keep him around, now that you don’t have any money to support him?

What if he meets someone else who is far grandeur than you are?

Last but not least, can you live with the abuse and uncertainty? There isn’t any guarantee that the narcissist or sociopath will stay. They get bored easily and life is centrally about excitement, manipulation and the thrill of getting away with it. Move on to a next unsuspecting victim and the process starts all over again. They do not have genuine love for you. What they are feeling is not sincere. It is not true. You relationship is a lie, and artifice. A grand orchestration and a union that is as strong as its weakest link. If money is the union’s sustenance then money will lead to its breakdown. Just as if you are in love with someone, you remain with him, when you are not in love anymore you want to be as far away from him as possible.  That is exactly how the narcissist will regard you, when you cannot supply his demands, he will leave you.