Rediscover the Joy of Being Single

by Amy Huang in Relationships, April 9, 2008

Those who have just came out of a broken relationship often linger too much in the past and fail to realize the potential of the future. Learning how to be single again and live life to the fullest is an important part of finding love again.

It isn’t easy to settle back into a single life after a breakdown of a relationship, especially a long term, established relationship. Many find this point of their life becomes almost meaningless, and simply cannot get used to being single again, having no one to spend their time with, and having to live with themselves again.

Too many people also try too much to live in the past and try to revive what has been lost and end up hurting even more. They are doing so in the hope that perhaps they could bring the relationship back, and often, fail to do so and fall into deep depression.

In fact, it isn’t all that scary to become single again, and having the right attitude will help you deal with the situation.

Be positive. Think of this as a liberating experience. Understandably it will be a sad period in your life trying to figure out why the relationship failed. However, look up and face the rest of the world. Look at your surroundings. There is so much to see and learn yet for you to be hung up on a relationship that perhaps wasn’t meant to be.
Find your passion. Remember the times when you felt that you really wanted to do something, yet being in a relationship prevented you from realising your dreams? Well, it’s time to fulfill that dream. Go on a world trip. See things you’ve always wanted to see. Learn something new. Join the local volleyball team. Have fun.
Catch up with your friends. This is the perfect time to catch up with those friends you haven’t seen for ages just because you were spending every night huddled up on the couch with your partner. Being single means you don’t have an obligation to be home are certain times, you don’t have to behave certain way just because it may offend your partner, and you can really have fun. Have a drink at the local pub; re-connect with your friends and family. You’d be surprised how much you actually miss socializing and how much you have missed out on!
Travel. Staying in the same old place where you might still bump into that ex of yours isn’t the solution. Go out and see the world. Visit that really remote village in Tibet, go trek up to the lost Inca City in Peru, volunteer with the local elephant conservation in Thailand. Experience something brand new and see everything you possibly can. You’ll discover that there is so much more to life than just one relationship, and who knows where you might end up and who you might meet? Your perfect partner would be sitting on the other side of the world crying over their own failed relationships. Why not take the chance?
Enjoy life. Any single you speak to will tell you how much fun it is being single. The freedom and the lack of obligation are all part of the positives about being single. Enjoy every part of it while you can, and while you are free of stress and sadness, is when you are the most true and attractive. Even if you are looking for love, love can come from every corner and every walks of life, and they usually appear when least expected. So why worry?