Rejection

Is rejection one of your greatest fears? Is rejection one of the greatest fears that can do the greatest damage to us personally?

Being rejected by someone you don’t know very well can make a person feel small, worthless, insecure and unwanted. But to have it done by someone that you care about can make those feelings even more vivid in your life and to be honest, it hurts!

I personally like being loved and being liked as well. It makes me feel good about myself. I have often met people that have stated they do not care what other people think or say about them. But I must say right now in my life I find that very hard to believe.

Besides the ways that I have already mentioned, one of the most important rejections, at least to me, is having someone you thought was close to you to not make an effort on your behalf on an important occasion.

So how do we handle rejection? I am not sure about you, but as a nice person we try to forgive and forget and make excuses for the person that has rejected us. But really does that help us? Remember the person that you had reject you for whatever reason, was someone you trusted with your dreams, your desires and your very personal feelings. When this happens to me the first thing I tend to do is ask myself, “Maybe if I had done this differently or if there was anything I could have done to prevent it”. Perhaps this is the worse thing that we could do for ourselves. To me, and I am just now realizing this, but those are all negative ways of handling it. Maybe we should try a different approach to this in a possitive way. Perhaps the person that rejected you was having a bad day themselves and it did not have anything to do with us. You like me know that we really are good people and that is what we need to remember. In any relationship whether friends or marriage it is a 50/50 deal. No one should take the responsibility of the relationship to a 90/10. Like someone said to me today. If you ended up giving 90% of yourself in the relationship then the other person allowed you to take it because they did not want it. Does that sound like a good relationship to begin with? You decide. Then you decide if the rejection was fair as well.