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Relationship Advice: How to Regain Trust After You Have Cheated on Your Partner

Regaining your partner’s trust after you have cheated on him or her is one of the most difficult challenges for a relationship. In this guide we have four tips to help you regain your partner’s trust.

You had an affair and your partner found out. You realize that you have made a mistake, you love your partner and will do anything to regain their trust so you will be able to have that loving relationship that the two of your once shared.

Your partner has agreed to stay with you or to continue having a relationship with you, but they are very guarded and he or she is having a lot of trouble forgiving you as well as having a lot of trouble trusting you.

You try to show your partner how much you love him or her and prove that you are now trustworthy, but nothing seems to help heal the damage that has been done.

The reality is trust is one of the hardest things to be regained in a relationship, but with patience and honest dedication, it is possible for your partner to trust you again.

The following are 4 important steps to help you get on your way to having that loving and open relationship that you once had with your partner:

  1. Time and Patience Are Your Friends:

    The reality is loss of trust is hard to recover from and a person cannot just be forced to forget it or get over it. Therefore, the best thing you can do, along with the other steps that we will discuss is to be patient, let your partner have his or her space and let time do its job.

  2. Apologize:

    Apologize to your partner for losing his or her trust. When a person has cheated on their partner, they often focus on apologizing for having the affair, but they do not always apologize for losing their partner’s trust. Apologizing will indicate to your partner that you understand that the affair was serious enough for him or her to lose trust in you.

  3. Tell Your Partner That You Understand the Consequences of Your Behavior:

    Telling your partner that you understand the consequences of what you did will assure him or her that you would think twice before ever doing something like that again. It will also assure your partner that you understand cause and effect and that you are taking responsibility for your decisions and actions.

  4. Tell Your Partner That You Are Concerned About How He or She Feels:

    The number one way to help someone in their healing process is to be able to empathize and validate how they feel. If your partner feels understood and emotionally validated he or she will let go of the need to drill it into you about how hurt he or she is as well as feel assured that you know what he or she is going through. Your partner will be able to release trying to explain how what you have done has affected him or her and will be able to start to forgive you and being open to trusting you again.

The Following is a Script to Say to Your Partner:

  • First Say: I am sincerely concerned about how you feel and what you have experienced.
  • Next say: It must have been hurtful and disappointing (or which ever you feel is the right description) for you that I betrayed your trust.
  • Then say: I understand the extent of the damage I have caused to you and the relationship including that you can no longer trust me and are hesitant to open yourself up emotionally to me.
  • Lastly, say: I would like to make an agreement with you that I will never cheat on you again. I understand that this is a deal breaker for you and if I do this action again you have the right the break off the relationship.

A deal breaker is any requirement in a relationship that is so important that if the other partner doesn’t align with it, the relationship would be over.

People do make mistakes and if you are sincere, patient and do whatever it takes to regain your partner’s trust, your new choices and behaviors will go a long way towards your partner being able to forgive you and trust you once again.

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  1. megan

    On April 8, 2008 at 9:47 pm


    what is you did all tht but u couldnt give them time b/c if u gave them time they would be gone forever??

  2. no one

    On July 25, 2008 at 1:12 am


    i have the same problum and i had to let goand even though my man is very very difficult and hard man to get close to he is comming aroung and did come around on his own if there really is a love bettween you that bond can not be broken and after time heals his heart he will come back for you

  3. Anonimity ftw

    On October 24, 2008 at 10:38 am


    I am in the situation that my trust has been betrayed and lost, because of the love still in me I want to give her a second chance, it hurts like hell and sometimes I think I may be better off without her, but if she were to do these things for me and show me truly that she is comitted to regaining my trust and that it is important enough for her to put the effort in, then it would be so much easier for me to welcome her back to me.

  4. Whocares

    On November 5, 2008 at 2:17 am


    My girl cheated on me and did all of these things, but it really doesn’t make me feel any more trusting. Trust is tricky. It is easily lost and damn near impossible to regain. I can’t believe love was ever there if a person was able to cheat. It is possiblel to recover a relationship after, but the word love should probably be reevaluated. If the word was brought to a bigger stage, maybe people would be able to retie a special value to it.

  5. Anonymous

    On November 19, 2008 at 1:38 pm


    I have a the same problem but have a hard time forgiving as the mere sight of his face reminds me of what he’s done

  6. mike

    On December 1, 2008 at 10:42 pm


    I cheated on my girlfriend of 3 years. its been a month and a half. i hate every moment without her. i made a huge mistake. i lost her trust. and i have to live with taht for the rest of my life… but i am a true beleiver in patience and letting whatever happen, happen. Time heals all. you can apoligize, buy flowers, charm, do whatever.. but Time and patience and showing he or she taht you are always there for them will bring you your answer, you have to be open for the future, if that is with your former lover or not be open. It is hard. but in the end if you are blessed to be with them again it will make all the difference. be patient and let time heal and seal.

  7. betrayed

    On December 16, 2008 at 9:01 pm


    I was cheated on for 5 years of a 12 year relationship. its hurts bad. we are still together but i cant forget. i think about it every day and when i was starting to trust him again i caught him trying to talk to her again. now what? once a cheater always a cheater? he treated me great and i was not suppose to ever find out, but i did. he is now very sorry and going out of his way to make me even happier but i am tired of faking my happiness with a cheater.

  8. tori

    On January 22, 2009 at 8:06 am


    my boyfriend and i recently split up over a random txt message he found whilst going through my phone, i explained to him that i did know who it was from but didnt know why it had been sent. He says ha can no longer trust me, im not sure what more i can do as ive not done anything wrong, i love him with all my heart and hoped we would spend our lives together but he now says that until i prove he can trust me he wont have me in his life. HELP!!!!

  9. hmmmmm

    On January 28, 2009 at 6:27 am


    Well in these times test messaging and im’s are really hurting relationships.for your answer tori call the person in front of your boyfriend if you have nothing to hide and call the person out for what they sent to you. That is an easy way to regain trust.

  10. eloy

    On February 2, 2009 at 2:20 pm


    I have put myself in a situation to cheat, i recently hit on a woman at work through email, and my wife caught me. I am glad she did, because i may have further pursued it. I still deeply love her, but i am not sure what contributes to me being unfaithful. Any idea??

  11. pinkXcosmo

    On February 4, 2009 at 8:35 am


    i recently contributed in an instant message that involved a lot of heavy talk and sexual connotations. I pretty much threw him under a bus and, but i really love him and he knows that…i told him over and over again that my horniness got the best of me, but I NEVER physically cheated, it was all over aim…i am broken up inside, and haven’t stopped crying since he found out. he says i damaged his trust, now he has cheated on everyone of his previous relationships, and I am the first relationship he hasn’t cheated. I don’t know what to do….

  12. lonely

    On February 10, 2009 at 1:43 pm


    I caught my husband openly flirting with someone at work, he says nothing happened, but he put himself in that situation all by himself, he confessed that he is been flirting with this girl for a month and he even concealed the existance of this new person in his office. To me it means that he cares about her, although he says he doesn’t. I’m deeply hurt, dissapointed, humilliated, those of you who have cheated please talk to me!!

  13. beentheredonethat

    On February 25, 2009 at 6:28 pm


    Lonely,
    You have not mentioned if you asked him why he was flirting? Sounds like he is willing to communicate his feelings since he admitted it. What’s his reasoning? The number 1 reason men cheat is they want to feel appreciated and admired for it. Only 12% of men cheat for sex. So communicate with your man about what he feels is lacking in your relationship and find ways for both of you to commit to making it better. I understand your hurt but don’t wallow in it, find solutions!

  14. beentheredonethat

    On February 25, 2009 at 6:46 pm


    Eloy,
    what were your feelings when you sent the e-mail? Did your heart pound, did your mind race with sexual thoughts about this person? Did that person feed your ego prior to taking that step? When you answer those questions, then you will realize what maybe missing in your current relationship. Communicate with your wife those feelings/needs and you maybe surprised she will have some too! Commit to doing something for each other to make the relationship better. If you dont then you just planted seeds of doubt in her heart and soon in yours, it can eventually choke out all trust.

  15. beentheredonethat

    On February 25, 2009 at 7:10 pm


    pinkXcosmo,
    Obviously there are some issues that you are not addressing with your partner. If you’re text message/chat to get a thrill which should be reserved personally for your spouse, its called emotional cheating….it starts in the mind first before physical. Communicate with your spouse the need to spice up the sex life and come up with ideas, text/chat them to each other. Give him the admiration of sexually fulfilling you body, soul and mind and you will find him very loving, affectionate and irresitable!

  16. cheated

    On March 10, 2009 at 10:16 pm


    i cheated on my boyfriend, and we intialy broke up. now we are back together and at first i was losing paitence, i wanted everything to be back the way it was before i cheated. i realize that is going to take time, and instead of focussing on what is missing or pushing him to trust me again. i focus on all the progress we have made since the first time it came out. 4 weeks ago i was single! focus on what you do have!

  17. racer_girl

    On April 3, 2009 at 9:54 pm


    I was cheated on and knew it the whole time. I watched as things went on and then when my our roommates decided they wanted to move out and how much rent would be his brothers girlfriends threatened him so he called me and told me. TRUST is a big thing and I told him that, he told me he went and talked to her about it and then the next night he “had to go talk to her to finish it off” weather or not he did, i’m thing no, I hope I can trust him. It all started when I went through his phone and noticed a text message that said “I’m on my way” I knew who it was and knew he was lying, and I told him that. Should I believe him or not? I love him and we have a 3 year old son. He means the world to me and I couldn’t have ever asked for a better man! but it is the TRUST part that kills me!!!! I do not know how to make him show me trust nor trust him when he was lying to me telling me that she was “someone he was talking to, to help ‘OUR’ relationship…” I’m not that STUPID!!!!

  18. Steph=]

    On April 19, 2009 at 12:25 pm


    I cheated on my fiance 2 weeks ago.. he is in the army on basic training and i havent seen him for 2months..in a moment of madness i kissed another guy and it didnt go all the way but it went to far.! I had messages from this guy on my facebook..and stupidyly didnt block him!
    My fiance’s sister who lives with me went on my facebook account after watching me type the password in and now she knows everything and is threatening me to tell my fiance or she will!..she has moved her stuff out..and i lied saying someone is going on my facebook (which they have but those particular messages are mine) i really dont want my fiance to find out about this becasue i love him so so much!

    can anyone help me? =[ x

  19. responder

    On April 28, 2009 at 10:47 am


    yes, steph, tell him.
    dont have a relationship with skelatins in the closet, they will ALWAYS come back. tell him now, it was only a kiss.

    the trust will come back, but you have to expect him to be weary of you and if you REALLY love him, you will go to the top of a mountain to prove to him that you’re HIS.
    and knock off all the inappropriate stuff online, that doesn’t help. if you do it online, it means you’re thinking about doing it in real life – and thats far enough for me.

  20. hurt

    On April 30, 2009 at 8:02 am


    i am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend cheated on me with someone he met on the internet, they arranged to meet and everything. he confessed to the affair & says it has ended, i dont believe him & dont trust him at all. i panic when he leaves the house or his phones rings. i have forgiven him but think it was too soon (a week) but am struggling to forget. its stressing me & the baby.

  21. Eden

    On April 30, 2009 at 10:10 pm


    Ive cheated on my husband..I moved out and we were seperated for 6 months. I cant believe i did it. I think back and im absolutely discussed with myself and ive ruined everything. We are back together now for about 3 months. As you can imagine trust is a major issue. He did crazy things with my personal information/ hacking/ called all the guys i was in contact with.While we were seperated he met someone. I dont trust him cause he is been lying to me saying that they are just friends. Which is fine but why lie and say he dont have contact with her. I can understand if i still had contact with men but i dont. He keeps a secret diary – i read it last nite. He still believe that i text men. Then he gets carried away by his thoughts and text them. He even downloaded the numbers to his work computer so i can delete the numbers but when i look its back on his phone. I dont even have their numbers anymore. I dont believe anything he says…… All i can say is ITS NOT WORHT IT! I think we as a society should be more aware regarding infidelity cause it happens so often but nobody talks about it. Should i contact this woman??????

  22. don't understand

    On May 5, 2009 at 5:35 pm


    I am also 7 months pregnant. My husband has a facebook page where the relationship status has “it’s complicated”. This tells me he really does not want to be married. He is communicating with someone he went to high school with and had a sexual relationship with. He communicated with her about 5 years ago and stated at that time, it was only communication. He had supposedly ended the communication at that time since I found out. We lived in the same state 5 years ago but now we live in another state for the past 3 years. I can really say the facebook communication with her just started last month b/c I had seen the page before but never paid any attention to the relationship status part. I even understand him being lonely b/c I really was not being a wife in everyway. But I always told him that if he found the need to cheat, just leave. I would not have a problem with him communicating with old friends but this one was of a sexual nature and he signed his ending of his message with love ya. I confronted him and he states it is not the same kind of love that he has for me. I told him I was willing to work on us but he had to give her up(e-mails/facebook/phone). He has supposedly wrote a message on face book to her. But how do I really know. I have always told him that what is done in the dark will always come to light. So, this is his last chance. If I ever find that he is cheating again, b/c it is emotional and not physical, it is still cheating to me; he will need to leave and I will file for divorce.

  23. Hopeless

    On May 10, 2009 at 11:42 pm


    Recently, my long time boyfriend of 11 yrs took a break. He said he needed space to work some personal issues out before we moved on. We had talked about marriage and I said I would wait for him. Instead, I met someone else and decided to leave for good. He begged me to stay, but I still chose someone I had only known for 2 months over him. I regret that decision and want him back; however, in our history this isn’t the first time I’ve decided to either leave or cheat on him. To my amazement he still has feelings for me and even though he has started to move on, he is now conflicted because I am back. Help! How can I make this work?

  24. jaded

    On May 14, 2009 at 1:16 am


    I think if men and woman all held values and didn’t cheat with someone who had a partner we wouldn’t have these problems. Its important to talk to your partner before things get out of hand with someone else. The problem is that we have too many choices. We are greedy….
    I have caught my partner before he cheated on me but I still have huge trust issues.

  25. cheater

    On May 18, 2009 at 11:17 am


    I cheated on my current boyfriend. We’re together almost 5 years now… it was almost 2 years ago. It last maybe 3 months… and I didn’t even like the person I cheated with. Personally, I was really unhappy with my relationship at the time, however, I didn’t want to LEAVE my BF either… instead of talking about it and trying to work together, I reached out to friends, one of which is the guy I cheated with… he was there saying and doing all the thing I thought my BF should say/do, and in the meantime talking about how terrible my BF was to me. Deep down I think I new it was all a put-on but I loved the attention anyway..
    but of course, it all came out… and in a very messy way…
    we since have been trying to work things out… but it was the WORST mistake of my life… here 2 years later (almost) and things still arn’t good, every time we see that other guy or the other guy’s old GF (it broke them up and she still harasses me too) we start at square 1 again… it’s a horrible life… BUT things are slowly getting better….

  26. liar

    On May 22, 2009 at 3:07 pm


    You people should stop your whoring! It’s not good for the soul.

  27. cheater

    On May 22, 2009 at 3:07 pm


    i have cheated on my wife And now she cant stand bieng near me i apologise every day but she tells me i broke her heart i feel really bad every day i don”t know what to do any more her love for me is gone and what hurts the most is that she might have found some one else that makes her feel good not in sex but in a good company and i get angry at my self for doing what i did wish i could turn the clock back and never have done all this to her an my family specially my kids who see what is going on and i am in pain every day when i am not near her i think of were she is at or who with she is a good woman she will not do anything bad its just me i hate my life for all the badd and aufull thigs i have done to my wounderfull wife i love her i thiers nothing i can do about it any more i cant have her and my marrige is over .

  28. Lost & broken

    On May 22, 2009 at 10:31 pm


    I recently found out that my boyfriend cheated on me. I found out it went on for four months, but all he did was kiss her. That’s what he says. I recently got an email from an anonomyous stranger telling me they had sex and everything. I have this fatal hint in my gut that it’s the girl just trying to cause stuff. Needless to say, I believe what my boyfriend says…I think. My trust has been so badly hurt that i’m not sure who or what to believe at this point. It’s been tearing me up inside and I now have anxiety problems because of it. I have decided to stay with him, but i find myself second guessing where he goes and who he talks to. He has completely blocked her from his phone, facebook, myspace, everything. He’s helping me through this and he realizes what i’m going through and why it’s gonna take a while. But it still doesn’t seem to help. He says he promises never to do it again and that he hates himself for it, but i still don’t think i believe him. What should i do?

  29. Broken

    On May 24, 2009 at 2:30 pm


    I have found out my gf has cheated on me about a year ago, we are a year futher on in the relationship but I still struggel to trust her>? I am always suspecting her of cheating again, During sex I think of that and I cant perform anymore, I also struggel to look at her naked. What can I do to improve that?

  30. Unable to Let go..

    On May 26, 2009 at 3:16 pm


    Gosh its so hard reading these, recently I found myself in one big delemia, my fiancee of the past 10yrs broke my heart. I am absolutly clueless about the whole mess to be honest. Back in december I started noticing little changes in my man to where I asked questions about his communications about someone from his facebook that he seemd to start talking to daily even going as far as installing chat programs for this very purpose. Was told I had nothing to worry about, till that dreadfull day, that curiousity got the best of me back in April. I read things I wish i never did, I confronted him about what I saw and he told me it was nothing i need not worry, but something in my gut keept telling me i did. the 21st of May I confronted the girl, and found out my worries were for good reason. After my confrontation with her I did something i shoudlnt have i lookd at his email. After reading an email he wrote to her the morning after I confronted him I lost control of myself, he told her how this was going to be the hardest thing he’s done in a long time but he’s walking away, how he’s got feelings for her but he has to work on his relationshiip with me and my kids.
    He told me what he told her wasa crock of BS but you know what I find myself wondering if what he’s told me is the same thing, he says he’s sorry and when i ask why he fell for someone else I dont really get a reason, i get an i dont know or it was all about the past she was from his past, but you know what else so was I hell I fell in love with the guy over 15yrs ago it wasn’t untill 10yrs ago that we hooked up again and made it last this time or atleast last this long. So many questions and so little anwsers and of corse I can’t kee brining it up and I can’t keep feeling like crap I have my kids to worry about…

  31. So Hurt It Hurts

    On June 17, 2009 at 3:22 pm


    My wife of 10 years was found communicating with someone I knew just this pass Friday. Let me tell the lesson I learned that all should enjoy and apply in thier relationships. Im usually at work on my scheduled off days since my wife works from home and there is no use I be there to interupt her. But after having a dream on Tuesday night that I was shot in the heart and having a dream on Wednesday that my wife was cheating on me with (ironically) someone that was related to the actual person she was communicating with. I went to a magazine rack on Thursday while shopping and I picked up a magazine and I just opened it up sporadically and my eyes fell on an article from a well known business man who credited his success to trusting his intuition and acting on his instincts. Here it is Friday. I was on my way to work and my Co-worker called me and told me it was so slow if there is not another day I take off and enjoy it should be today. I then went home per his advice and since i missed a package in the mail that required a signature the day before I thought i would go home and take care of that. It was funny that that was the Friday my wife had to go into her office to work opposed to the home office. When the mail arrived there was a T-Mobile bill with it and our cell service is with Verizon so i was baffled to say the least. i opened it up and found an actual payment request for a cell phone under my wifes name that I had no clue she had. I decided to go on the site and take a stab at figuring out her password and low and behold i cracked it on the 1st take and walla only 2 numbers were being called over the last 2 months. One was an old friend that I was not too concerned about (you have to see him.lol) but the other is a close friend to our circle of couples (actually my wifes friends brother). after confronting her about it with excessive denial the guy called me and told me they were just friends and he did not want me to think otherwise but he knew i would not understand so they thought it would be best not to let me know but because their conversations were mainly about his problems within his relationship with his sister (my wifes friend) and i presume my wifes problems with me. I didnt believe that for 1 minute. I can honestly say I dont think there was no intimacy yet because he was only around for a couple of days and when my wife met me she loved my dirty drawls and she did not sleep with me for atleast 8 months I think if it was not brought to light it could have been something else later. But I cant trust her anymore and I am contemplating packing up and leaving her. What should I do?????

  32. TONY

    On June 19, 2009 at 11:20 am


    I cheated on my wife whom Ihave been with for 9yrs,I only did this once and Iam so sorry,she kicked me out of the house and filed for divorce ,but we just went to court so I could say she could have the house.That is all that has happened for now and she told me she need her space to find herself again because i hurt her so bad should i leave her alone and give her the space.Iam just scared because I think the space will hurt us.I keep giving her letters and text messaging her should I stop this.I have learned my lesson I now go to church and Iam trying to do what is right.Iam going to marriage counseling by myself and I have tried to get her to do couples but she want she goes by herself. what should I do

  33. james

    On June 25, 2009 at 6:41 am


    my wife cheated on me but still im with her she doesnt know that i catched her while cheating redhandedly, i dint asked till now about this matter, she daily apolizies me but im not accepting her now she is sick.I dont want to leave her and i dont want to apolozise her for life time.

  34. em

    On July 5, 2009 at 5:55 am


    How sad it is to read all this, and I feel sick to the stomach because I was cheated on by my husband of 18 years, and then afer he left me and blaming it all on my “lack of affection” and that “he deserves some happiness in life” he is now telling me that he will most probably regret this for the rest of his life. Since then the first man I became involved in emotionally and physically also decided to “keep his options open” and was found out by me, so I have had a double dose of cheating men. How on earth am I ever going to be able to have another relationship? I am giving allowances to the recent one as we are “only dating”, not living together and only see each other once a week, it is early days I keep telling myself, and once he realises that I am in it for the long haul he will committ? Am I in dreamland or what? The ex husband I cannot forgive, we were married for so long and we said our vows, with this new “date” we have not committed or said any vows that is why I live in hope that it will turn into a committed relationship. He has also been damaged by past relationships. What a mess no wonder I feel sick.
    Even if I gave up on the “date” how do I know to trust the next man that comes along? – I dont think I ever will.

  35. suzi

    On July 5, 2009 at 1:26 pm


    NEVER EVER EVER trust anyone 100% again!!! If they betray it once they’re gonna do it again and again.

  36. bub

    On July 11, 2009 at 2:24 pm


    Everyone makes mistakes… cheating is a hard thing to get over, you betray someone’s love and trust, for whatever reason you throw away honestly, lies are always involve.

    I have been on both sides of the fence…

    For the one that are truly sorry, truly deeply sorry, please do all that you can to win you love one back. Grovel hard! Let\’s be real here, you *ucked up, what do you expect? Yes.. he/she may leave you, its their choice, you hurt them baddddd. You are at their mecry. If you still love who you have cheated on and can\’t let it go, do yourself a favor, go back, said sorry, be honest, super honest, be prepare for s##t to hit the fan, then grovel very hard and mean it. If you are so lucky that he/she took you back, my god, TREAT them well, earn their love and trust again. And leave the rest to faith. Do things out of love not fear.

    For the one that have been cheated on- cheating is a selfish thing, he/she cheated cause it was all they could think about at that point in time, for whatever reason/for attention/for sex/for lust. They are responsible for their actions, don\’t make excuses for them and don\’t let them make excuses. Everyone makes mistakes that is true. Do you love them enough to forgave and move on? You will know in you guts if you can still love this person.

    If you DO stay with a cheater, please forgive them, and then forgive them some more. Gave them a chance to win you back. Grudges will only make your life full of hurt. If you can only treat them with hate and you just can’t forgave, pack up your things and leave. Please don’t torture yourself. Most of the times it hurts bad, because you still care. And you want to dish out more hurt, but know this, when you haven’t forgiven those who’ve hurt you, you turn your back against your future.

    If you ever feel hard done by a cheater. Hun, you deserve much much better, I hope you don’t corner yourself with hate and regrets, let it all go and find bigger and better things in your life and be happy.

  37. ximigo

    On July 24, 2009 at 7:04 am


    Thanks for your post Bub! My husband cheated on me 3 monthes ago, and I decided to give him 1 more chance because I love him so much. Of course I still feel like torture myself when I think about everything. I tried my best to stop thinking about it, but I just can’t control my mind sometimes(special when I hear somebody else talk about cheatting). It is really going to take some time. But I love your post here, it is really helped me to stop drive myself crazy.

  38. seanno

    On August 1, 2009 at 9:33 pm


    Do you love me enough to forgive me? If yes, then lets start working on healing and forgiveness can come later.

  39. Amelia

    On August 4, 2009 at 11:13 pm


    Trust is earned and is based on predictability. No one gets a free-pass trust card. One cannot deduce that this person couldn\’t their impulse just this once and therefore will never do it again. That seems very foolish to me. I think the guilty party will repeat the offence; it\’s just a matter of time. Don\’t you think their groveling is based out of guilt? If they don\’t have the integrity now, what makes you think they will have it later? This is a character flaw. We all know people of high integrity and have no problem trusting them. Why waste your time on someone who doesn\’t value self integrity, and therefore absolutely-no-way-to-have integrity for the relationship.

  40. distressed_girl

    On December 4, 2009 at 4:45 pm


    right now my boyfriend does not trust me. i didnt cheat on him but he thinks i did. i caused it though, i gave a guy my number for valid reason- i was buying my boyfriend a gift but they didnt have the one i wanted, i really loved the one they had but it wasnt the ideal colour. the guy said he was expecting others so he would let me kno wen he does, that\’s how he got my # i dont normally giv guys my # and i was hesistant in giving it. the guy started calling me after but i never said anything to my boyfriend because he was goin 2 ask questions, the gift was a surprise so i kno if i told him at the time he wud av figured it out. i really wanted to tell him but i had planed to do it after the surprise. the surprise came and i wasnt very happy with his reaction i wz upset so i decided to tell him another time. i never did, i forgot and am not sure if i avoided tellin him mayb i thought it wud go away. i told the guy that i wz in a realationship and all and that i wz not interested in complicating things- i didnt tell him 2 stop calling me straight up because i wz afraid he wudnt try 2 get the one i wanted. he called me wen my boyfriend was arround and my boyfriend started askin questions because the guy greeted me as if we were lomg time friends it didnt come off well and now my boyfriend is upset with me and is wondering wat else i am hiding from him, nothing was intentional really but i kno i shud av told him wen i had the chance. now things are not lookin so gud- he\’s very sad wen i\’m around and is disgusted wen he sees me. i dont lik the guy neither am i interested in him but my boyfriend made it clear that he cant believe anything i say. i dont kno wat 2 do, any advice?

  41. Over-it

    On January 12, 2010 at 3:04 pm


    My husband cheated on me. I have decided to try again (we have 5 kids so…). I do love him but I feel terrible. Every day sucks. I am either on meds (which have a host of undesirable side effects) or feeling so very depressed. The worst part is that he is either dense to my feelings or he really doesn’t care. I bought him a book about how to recover form an affair (directed at the cheater) it took him 2 days and me finally telling him to just forget it before he even started to read it. I tell him I feel really insecure about everything and he’s like ” I wish there was something I could do.” HELLO??? There is- lavish me with honest reasons you love me and our family. Be extra thoughtful and affectionate. The regular stuff a man should do is just not enough in this situation. ALL YOU CHEATERS OUT THERE READ THIS: You need to put in at least double the effort you put into your affairs and you need to do it consistently, you’re only reward (if you are damn lucky) is that your spouse will one day trust your efforts and not think it’s a band-aid to get what you want so you can return to the business of being selfish.

  42. Samantha

    On February 11, 2010 at 4:31 pm


    Dont EVER say, \”I tell you waht, you can break up with me if I cheat again\” NEVER NEVER NEVER say that.
    That only leaves open the option in their head that you would cheat on them again, but there would only be a great consequence.
    Just flat out tell them you wont, and follow through with not doing it! Plain and simple.
    Let them tell you how they feel. Let them express their anxiety and worry. You deserve it. They don\’t. But they chose to stay with you anyway. So, think about that.

  43. Naomi

    On February 23, 2010 at 7:26 am


    I cheated on my boyfriend, by sleeping with someone at work. I told him about it over the phone last night. He is angry, hurt, and says he will never trust me again, but I love him and cannot lose him. I know what I did was stupid and I would never do it again, but how can I show him that I love him, and want him to trust mr again?

  44. ANTHONY

    On February 24, 2010 at 5:03 pm


    My girlfriend for almost 2 years just boke up with me. She broke up with me because while we were broken up I went back to my x wife out of ignorance for one night, just one and she trapped me told me on the pill. Well she wasnt, what a surprise. I told my girlfriend after we got back together that she was pregnant but lied about how. Yeah I know sounds stupid but I did out of fear of loosing the one girl that ment the world to me. I know she loves me still but what can I do if there is anything I can do? I have apologized over and over, the flowers everything. What makes it worst she went and sat down with the X and shared stories. Well alot of lies about me. Is this even worth saving?

  45. sophie

    On April 19, 2010 at 10:36 am


    I found out my boyfriend lied to me, having aim sex conversations with other girls, one of them, his exgirlfriend. I told him I would forgive him, as he was sad and feeling guilty. And I loved him still a lot. But nowadays (some months since this happened) still I remind what I saw, when he makes some sort of sex related comment to me, I cant help it and discusts me. I remind how he talked that other girl… I love him still, but less. Even he said he wont do it again, I think it is just a matter of time he cheats on me. Ihave doubts all the time about what did I do wrong, i doubt if he desires me, cos when i thought of what he said…totally kills the image of him I had. He was reminding how great sex with his exgirlfriend was… How much he enjoyed… My pride and selfsteem are totally below 0.
    I want to get over this, and trust him again, because I belived he was the one for me, now I doubt all the time, I dont know what to do to get over this… How can I trust him again? How can I feel better? How do I know if I should trust him, If he is worth it?

  46. Natasha

    On April 20, 2010 at 7:04 pm


    I have been with my boyfriend for a year now but before i met him i like this other guy called ’shane’ but that never worked out. Recently i went over ’shanes’ house and he hit on me and i only kissed him. i didnt think it was a big deal until i told my boyfriend, we had a fight over it and now his family hate me and i feel heart broken with everything he has said to me. He is willing to give it another shot but he said he could never trust me again. I feel awful and regret cheating so much, any advise? x

  47. MaryPoppins

    On April 22, 2010 at 8:21 am


    well Natasha first you should think why did you go over ’shanes’ house? you liked him before you said, and it never worked out… But now that you had a relation he did hit on you.
    And you where ready for it, and did not stop it. You say you regret cheating, and feel awful. But besides from that you should get over it and ask your self if you are really over ’shane’. And find out what moved you towards ’shane’. Probably is something your boyfriend does not give you. That could be the root of the problem here. Also keep in mind, your boyfriend feels hurt, but if he gives you another chance,he has to be ready to trust you again. You have to gain his trust or the relation will never work. And for that the best is to try to start from 0. Talk a lot, go have dates…and ofcourse erase ’shane’ from your agenda… Because your boyfriend will sure be suspicious about any guy, and if you dont want to hurt him be sincere. Hope I did help you. Good luck.

  48. Gay Shay The Cheater

    On May 18, 2010 at 2:51 am


    I have been going out with my fiance’ for about six months on and off, i cheated on him two or so months ago, i cheated on him with his best friend (my ex) at the time and i kept it a secret for a long while… doing that with him, (the other guy) was not worth losing the one i truly love… my soul mate… but then i think that “how could i have really loved him if i had cheated… well maybe i didn’t. our relationship was still so new… but i do believe that it can grow and love can be honestly displayed after that…i regret it more then anything, all my life i have been in OPEN RELATIONSHIPS and never really worried about how cheating on someone who believes in monogamy would really effect their lives, until i met him, he lives a life where cheating or open relationships are just NOT an option, i am BISEXUAL… so he feels intimidated by not just guys, girls too… i just want him to know i WONT do it again and that he deserves much better then i… but if i prove my UNCONDITIONAL love then that maybe one day soon will be enough… he called me his fiance today, but we talked about the past poor decisions i have made and he still sounds so hurt by it, i don’t blame him…the more time goes on the more i love the idea of being with only one person… this is the first relationship i think i have ever tried this hard on to make work… i think its sad, but there’s hope… and then there’s fate…

  49. Louise

    On June 1, 2010 at 6:09 pm


    I cheated on my partner of nearly 5 Years we have 3 children together, I meet a guy on a BeNaughty website (steer clear). I was board whilst hubby was at work so i started surfing the net and never worried about meeting someone just had a bit of harmless fun. Until I was contact by someone local and things go out of control. I meet him that day. After the deed was done 5 days later, later that night my husband found emails to him. After several days of fighting he took me back. he kept asking why I did it and I wanted to be needed (selfish). He set up a test for me nearly a week later sending me an email making out like he was the guy I meet and i fell for it. He then told me I had to seek professional help which i am doing and to make things worst when I was caught I told a lie to cover up a lie to cover up another lie. So that broke the trust even more. I was really pushy, im doing my best to back off but am having trouble I thought the grass was greener on the other side. Now I just want my husband back. I have no idea what to do???

  50. callan

    On August 17, 2010 at 2:01 pm


    I have been with my boyfriend for about two years and I thought it was going great. He was cheating on me which is one of the worst feelings I have ever experienced. Except the difference for me is that it was not just one time it was on and off, with different girls for basically our whole relationship. I take him back because I love him except the trust still hasnt come back. I always tell him that I forgive him but I will never forget what happened. How am I ever supposed to trust him again? He seems to have changed from his past ways but I never thought he was cheating before and then I found out so now I feel like everything is lies and who knows if they are just clever and still doing it? I was always a firm believer once a cheater always a cheater but now that I got cheated on I wanted to let go but I just cant.

  51. skillow reed

    On August 25, 2010 at 3:04 am


    once a cheater always a cheater the bitch just ain\’t no good i no skillow reed……..

  52. lele

    On August 28, 2010 at 5:44 pm


    recently ive lost the trust of my gf and we’re long distance atm. like other sides of the country! i lied to her and at first i tried to justify it but now i see that i messed up hard and have nothing to blame but myself. i tried to get her to see my realizations and if we could work things out but she says she cant get over the fact that i lied to her.
    bottom line is.. any advice on how to show her ive learnt my lesson and how to try regain her trust? remember its long distance ><
    HELP!!

  53. monicabynum

    On September 24, 2010 at 2:04 pm


    Me and my husband been together for seven years we have a two year old daughter. I love him deeply i just dont trust him at all he cheated on me about two months ago i for gave him but still didnt trust him all the way. The person he cheated with always called his phone and leaving messages. He told her not to call no more. So every night i seen that she is still calling so i called her and ask whats the problem . She told me well maybe if he wasnt calling me i wouldnt keep calling him. So I ask him why she saying u still talking to he told she is trying to up set me. I believe him so three days later i checked his phone guess what i seen them two twxting each about seeing each other. I was so hurt couldnt believe it showed him the text he tells me oh i was gone show that she keep texting . He really throught i was gone to fall for that .then the next day i ask him for the truth he still lieing then that night he gone tell me hes sorry he didnt mean it. My trust for him is gone this isnt the first time he ever cheated im just done with it all the lieing the hurting.

  54. Monica

    On September 24, 2010 at 2:06 pm


    Me and my husband been together for seven years we have a two year old daughter. I love him deeply i just dont trust him at all he cheated on me about two months ago i for gave him but still didnt trust him all the way. The person he cheated with always called his phone and leaving messages. He told her not to call no more. So every night i seen that she is still calling so i called her and ask whats the problem . She told me well maybe if he wasnt calling me i wouldnt keep calling him. So I ask him why she saying u still talking to he told she is trying to up set me. I believe him so three days later i checked his phone guess what i seen them two twxting each about seeing each other. I was so hurt couldnt believe it showed him the text he tells me oh i was gone show that she keep texting . He really throught i was gone to fall for that .then the next day i ask him for the truth he still lieing then that night he gone tell me hes sorry he didnt mean it. My trust for him is gone this isnt the first time he ever cheated im just done with it all the lieing the hurting.

  55. SLS

    On September 28, 2010 at 9:57 pm


    I cheated for the first time in my life, simply because I wanted to experience what a ‘One Night Stand’ felt like. It was therefore only the one time.

    I did it at the early stages of the relationship. When I met my boyfriend, I had numerous guys around me and I was a bit indecisive on who to choose. But my boyfriend stood out among the rest. So I chose to be with him, and he was in full commitment mode instantly. I however, two months in, still wasn’t but did not tell him. It was also in this time, I had that ONS with a good friend’s colleague.

    After the ONS, I walked away feeling I had satisfied my curiosity and am done. Weeks later, my boyfriend and I got closer and it was then I realised he’s the one I wanted to love for the rest of my life. I never thought about doing anything with anyone else since.

    A month later, my ONS guy booty called me at 3am and my boyfriend got suspicious. I LIED that I don’t know why I got the call and it must have been a random drunk dial. 2 weeks later, obviously he wasn’t trusting me, he went through my phone to find text messages sent between me and the guy about how we have kissed at a night club (This was before the ONS – kissing him that night had sparked my ONS curiosity) and he had given me his address in another text.

    I LIED to my boyfriend AGAIN that it was only kissing, and nothing else happened. I said the gave me the address so I could pick him up to go out to a club, which I then said we did end up kissing again. My boyfriend was furious but then chose to take me back after serious begging on my part.

    3 days ago, 3 months later, 5 months into the relationship, he went through my facebook messages one day and saw a message I sent to a girlfriend about my ONS experience, and it killed him.

    He has dumped me like no tomorrow. He said its because I cheated AND LIED – 3 times when I was given the chance to come clean. I know I am wrong in sooo many ways and would have hurt him and made him feel like a fool over and over… But I hid it because I felt it didn’t mean anything and I did not want to tell him the truth because he wouldn’t forgive me for what I did.

    I want him back so very badly. He was completely withdrawn from me, but yesterday, he still sent me a text asking me to explain what really happened and asking me why don’t I realise how much he loves me. I want to tell him so badly that it is soo long over. I had no emotional connection with this guy, and it was never going to happen again. I told him it happened before I was ready to be committed to him and my curiousity got the better of me, but he said he was already committed and I had cheated and made him a fool. And to top it off, I lied and lied and lied again and again!

    I am dying inside. I don’t know what to do. We had our future all planned out – but because of my one stupid curiosity at that early stage and my selfishness for not telling him the truth because I didn’t want to lose him, I had ruined our chance for a happy future.

    Someone please tell me what to do. I want him back. I know he wants me back too. But he’s so hurt and he’s been sending me very evil texts and yelling like he’s going insane on the phone. I’m afraid I have changed him and made this beautiful soul a demon because of the hurt and pain I’ve inflicted on him. Someone… PLEASE HELP ME.

  56. MER*

    On October 4, 2010 at 3:30 pm


    well i have been with my boyfriend now of 2yrs. he has a 2yr old son who means the world to me. when he were together for about 3 months he cheated on me with his sons mother. and about 5 months ago i caught him texting her things other than about their son. we broke up and i moved out for about a month but we got back together. he is the first man i have ever been in love with the way that i am. if i didnt think we were honeslty meant to be i wouldnt have never got back with him. but the relationship itself stresses me out to that max. i have to always wonder who he is talking to, or where he is going. i have to pull up the cell phone bill online and make sure he is not lieing about who he is talking to. i know when you decide to take someone back after they cheated you have to have trust, but i wont lie i have none! a part of me thinks that he really wont do it again and he made a mistake but then the other part of me thinks he will. if you really love someone how can you lie to there face and go off with someone else?? sometimes i ask myself why i sit here and waste my time. i just wish i knew a way to get over it better, so it wasnt on my mind all the time and i could focus on myself.

  57. Tasha

    On November 11, 2010 at 11:41 pm


    i have been cheated on and i have cheated.Firstly he cheated when i was pregnant.It got to a point he left me for another woman and i had to deal with that.After a year we decided to work things out even though he was still staying with the other woman and they also have a child together.During that period i cheated on him for a period of 3months.The worst part of it is that it came out through the baby mama and when he got wind of it he was so ready to dump me.Funny thing is i begged for forgiveness.Its a pretty messed up situation.I love this guy very much but sometimes i get so frustrated when he doesnt give attention to me or his son.The guy i cheated with,it wasnt for money or love but it felt nice just to go and talk to him about my problems in the relationship.Little did i know he knew my mans live in baby mama.I know it sounds crazy but i want him back what to i do?

  58. Russ

    On December 11, 2010 at 11:54 pm


    Several times I had been caught viewing dating sites while married. I felt neglected by my wife, when in fact it was my sense of not being content and satisfied with the woman that would die for me Well last year i pushed her away and moved out to be with a woman I went to high school with. My wife took me back after i realized how stupid i was. But I did not stop talking to the other woman I felt so bad I got involved with her I tried to continue being friends not realizing it was killing my wife. it has been almost 1 year since Lisa left me and I now feel like she did when we were together.she ignores me is cold wont talk to me then she wants sex then she is gone and back to being cold. I am so ashamed and broken hearted and I have no one to blame but myself. i want her back and would sell my soul to have her back.

  59. EAF

    On December 23, 2010 at 12:58 am


    my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me about 2 months ago, I knew something was up but couldn\’t put my fnger on it, I went through his walet and seen a picture of him and another girl, my whole world came crashing down around me, I never though he would cheat on me ever, so needless to say I went insane and threw him out of the house, I cried for days,and of course he said the whole\”it was just a fling\” thing, but it doesn\’t matter cheating is cheating bottom line, I have since taken him back after him begging me and telling me how sorry he was for hurting me, but something is gone inside me and no matter how hard I try I can\’t get it back, everytime he kisses me or puts his hands on me I think of her and wonder, its always on my mind, and I can\’t live like this anymore Im so depressed, I love him but now I question how much, enough to forgive and forget and put this behind us and move on, or is the damage so bad it can\’t be fixed.

  60. JEN gOEBEL

    On December 28, 2010 at 3:30 am


    I cheated on my boyfriend with a mutual friend and hid it until he found out. I cant understand why i did this because i love my boyfriend more than words could say and could care less about this other guy. I dont even know how to start repairing it, he says he wants nothing to do wit me but i wont give up. I can say i will neve ever do it againbut how could he ever believe that, how could anyone ever believe it. I am a coward and a selfish person for hurting him for so long but i dont know how to change or even begin. I desperately need help. I want to be the type o person he would be lucky to have but have i destroyed that forever??????

  61. ROX

    On February 17, 2011 at 9:49 pm


    i had a few dates with one guy and talk on phone here and there and i felt like i was the one persuing him all the time he didn’t call me or spending time together!! and i had said to myself ill wait for him to call and if he dosen’t well ill know he is not that interested. So i went out one night and met a guy that i knew that he like me for awhile so i ended up with him but after realise that i was not really feeling anything for him and when i got back home saw that the other guy that i was dating called me i felt so ashamed and told him about what happen. Now he is not to sure to continue and go to official relationship if i would cheat on him even if we were not together!!! don’t know what to do i know that guy is a keeper i really should of wait but been down that road before and told myself i would never wait on a guy again!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!!!!

  62. seth

    On February 23, 2011 at 8:58 am


    After reading some of these comments, I feel the needto tell my story. I am a 27 year old male, I met my girlfriend 5 years ago (2006) -I was a reck!! I was involved in the night club scene at the time and as a result I dabbled rather heavily in drugs, with the drugs came women. In the first 12 months of our relationship I cheated on 5 occassions with 2 other women. My reasoning at the time was the insecurity I had as she had kept me a secret from her family, making me doubt the seriousness of our relationship.

    Once I had met the parents, I stopped all fooling around and began to take the relationship seriously. In 2008 I had far too much to drink and resulted in me cheating again wit one of the previous women. I then made a conscious decision to change and for the last three years, I have become the person I always wanted to be!! She makes me want to be a better person. Recently though, 2011 – she found out about my unfaithful behaviour. The constant promises over the years has also added to the betrayal.

    I JUST WANT TO SAY: I have changed – CHEATERS DO CHANGE!!! I have been faithful for the last three years and love my girlfriend with all my heart. The fact that I did something 3 years ago and dealt with the guilt then to make sure I made a conscious decision to change for the better. If I was ever given the chance, Id make sure she never ever had to doubt me….I hope I ge the cance!! I LOVE HER 21

  63. mysteryguy

    On February 27, 2011 at 6:28 am


    I have recently cheated on my girlfriend. I was extremely drunk and another woman took advantage of this. I do not want to use this as an excuse. I love more girlfriend more than anything in the world and telling her about this has crushed me beyond belief. I do not know what to do and feel as though my world has come to an abrupt end. I told her last night and she went to throw up and then drove home. I haven’t heard anything from her and it is killing me. I have never had feelings like this before and feel as though my life has no point anymore. I text her telling her how I am feeling and am going to write her a letter.

    I feel like the lowest of the low and honestly don’t know what do to. I cant believe I have hurt her so much and hurt not only my best friend but also the person i want to grow old with.

  64. aska03

    On April 6, 2011 at 11:54 pm


    I was in relationship with a guy since 5 months. We used to have lots of arguement and fights in our relationship but soon we used to solve the problem.But her ex girlfriend used to message me. She told me that they were still in relationship but it didnt brought any effect in our relationship.But just a week ago we broke up.The reason was not so big.Actually i called him bt he didnt pick my call.Then i felt insecure and call his ex gf and talk to her.After sometime he called me back.That time his behaviour was nice but after sometime he called me started to tell me all the rubbish things and ask me whether i called his ex gf or not.He asked me many times but i denied.I was so afraid that i couldnt tell the truth.I really didnt want to loose him so i even take promises that i didnt cal her.But same day he got the proof from his ex gf\’s mobile and call me and told many bad things to me even about my characters.And when i called him at night he told me that he already made new gf and now we cant be together.I tried to convince him, said sorry and ask for a second chance.For two days our relationship was bad but i often called him.I am not well now.just a week ago i abode his child.After 2 days of our breakup i finally convince myself to forget him but he send me msg asking whether i am fine or not.He called me told dat he is gonna stay with me until i become alright and our exams end.He told me he had affair with a girl when we broke for two days..he told everything to her and she told him to come him back after 1 month..even now we decided to be in relation for 1 month he is not being able to trust me and i want this reln forever so how can i rebuild his trust??????

  65. Shattered Beyond Belief!

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:44 am


    To Be honest I Don’t know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I don’t belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didn’t like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didn’t really love this girl and that we wern’t right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasn’t able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she thought it best to say “goodbye”. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she “found someone” a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I *ucked up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just don’t know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

    (as a side note I know how it feels to be cheated on and with no remorse, so I can honestly say I feel for anyone who has to go through such a horrible trust breaking thing. But I believe if you truly Love the person and they are willing to at least try to make things better, give them the chance. Life is short and I wouldn’t expect anyone to suffer repeatedly but if you know the one who cheated on you will mean what they say, give them a chance, the trust can return but you have to allow it to, don’t force it, but also don’t hinder it. and for those who have cheated. repent. feel guilty, ashamed, and dishonored because we have done a catastrophic thing to someone who cared. Hope and pray things will get better cause it seems thats all we have, but don’t ever expect full forgiveness, or trust ever again.)

  66. Shattered Beyond Belief

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:45 am


    To Be honest I Don\’t know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I don\’t belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didn\’t like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didn\’t really love this girl and that we wern\’t right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasn\’t able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she thought it best to say \”goodbye\”. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she \”found someone\” a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I *ucked up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just don\’t know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I don\’t know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

    (as a side note I know how it feels to be cheated on and with no remorse, so I can honestly say I feel for anyone who has to go through such a horrible trust breaking thing. But I believe if you truly Love the person and they are willing to at least try to make things better, give them the chance. Life is short and I wouldn\’t expect anyone to suffer repeatedly but if you know the one who cheated on you will mean what they say, give them a chance, the trust can return but you have to allow it to, don\’t force it, but also don\’t hinder it. and for those who have cheated. repent. feel guilty, ashamed, and dishonored because we have done a catastrophic thing to someone who cared. Hope and pray things will get better cause it seems thats all we have, but don\’t ever expect full forgiveness, or trust ever again.)

  67. Shattered

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:45 am


    To Be honest I Don\\\\\\\’t know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I don\\\\\\\’t belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didn\\\\\\\’t like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didn\\\\\\\’t really love this girl and that we wern\\\\\\\’t right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasn\\\\\\\’t able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she thought it best to say \\\\\\\”goodbye\\\\\\\”. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she \\\\\\\”found someone\\\\\\\” a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I *ucked up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just don\\\\\\\’t know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I don\\\\\\\’t know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

    (as a side note I know how it feels to be cheated on and with no remorse, so I can honestly say I feel for anyone who has to go through such a horrible trust breaking thing. But I believe if you truly Love the person and they are willing to at least try to make things better, give them the chance. Life is short and I wouldn\\\\\\\’t expect anyone to suffer repeatedly but if you know the one who cheated on you will mean what they say, give them a chance, the trust can return but you have to allow it to, don\\\\\\\’t force it, but also don\\\\\\\’t hinder it. and for those who have cheated. repent. feel guilty, ashamed, and dishonored because we have done a catastrophic thing to someone who cared. Hope and pray things will get better cause it seems thats all we have, but don\\\\\\\’t ever expect full forgiveness, or trust ever again.)

  68. Shattered Beyond Belief

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:49 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldn’t spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trustshe thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I *ucked up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

    (as a side note I know how it feels to be cheated on and with no remorse, so I can honestly say I feel for anyone who has to go through such a horrible trust breaking thing. But I believe if you truly Love the person and they are willing to at least try to make things better, give them the chance. Life is short and I wouldnt expect anyone to suffer repeatedly but if you know the one who cheated on you will mean what they say, give them a chance, the trust can return but you have to allow it to, dont force it, but also dont hinder it. and for those who have cheated. repent. feel guilty, ashamed, and dishonored because we have done a catastrophic thing to someone who cared. Hope and pray things will get better cause it seems thats all we have, but dont ever expect full forgiveness, or trust ever again.)

  69. Shattered

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:50 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldn\’t spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trustshe thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I *ucked up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

    (as a side note I know how it feels to be cheated on and with no remorse, so I can honestly say I feel for anyone who has to go through such a horrible trust breaking thing. But I believe if you truly Love the person and they are willing to at least try to make things better, give them the chance. Life is short and I wouldnt expect anyone to suffer repeatedly but if you know the one who cheated on you will mean what they say, give them a chance, the trust can return but you have to allow it to, dont force it, but also dont hinder it. and for those who have cheated. repent. feel guilty, ashamed, and dishonored because we have done a catastrophic thing to someone who cared. Hope and pray things will get better cause it seems thats all we have, but dont ever expect full forgiveness, or trust ever again.)

  70. Shattered

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:51 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldn\\\’t spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trustshe thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I *ucked up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

    (as a side note I know how it feels to be cheated on and with no remorse, so I can honestly say I feel for anyone who has to go through such a horrible trust breaking thing. But I believe if you truly Love the person and they are willing to at least try to make things better, give them the chance. Life is short and I wouldnt expect anyone to suffer repeatedly but if you know the one who cheated on you will mean what they say, give them a chance, the trust can return but you have to allow it to, dont force it, but also dont hinder it. and for those who have cheated. repent. feel guilty, ashamed, and dishonored because we have done a catastrophic thing to someone who cared. Hope and pray things will get better cause it seems thats all we have, but dont ever expect full forgiveness, or trust ever again.)

  71. Shattered

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:52 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldn\\\\\\\’t spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trustshe thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I *ucked up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

    (as a side note I know how it feels to be cheated on and with no remorse, so I can honestly say I feel for anyone who has to go through such a horrible trust breaking thing. But I believe if you truly Love the person and they are willing to at least try to make things better, give them the chance. Life is short and I wouldnt expect anyone to suffer repeatedly but if you know the one who cheated on you will mean what they say, give them a chance, the trust can return but you have to allow it to, dont force it, but also dont hinder it. and for those who have cheated. repent. feel guilty, ashamed, and dishonored because we have done a catastrophic thing to someone who cared. Hope and pray things will get better cause it seems thats all we have, but dont ever expect full forgiveness, or trust ever again.)

  72. Shattered

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:52 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trustshe thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I *ucked up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

  73. Shattered

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:53 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trustshe thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I *ucked up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

  74. Shattered

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:54 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldnt spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trustshe thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I *ucked up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

  75. Shattered

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:55 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. And I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldnt spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trust she thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I messed up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

  76. Shattered1

    On May 17, 2011 at 6:59 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldnt spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trust she thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I messed up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

  77. Shattered1

    On May 17, 2011 at 7:01 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I have cheated on my girlfriend of 1 and a half years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current ex-girlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him 4 months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived 1000 miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only 5 months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and 2 months I was working with co-workers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about 2 months ago, 1 year and 4 months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, e-mailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldnt spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trust she thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I messed up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current ex-girlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

  78. Shattered1

    On May 17, 2011 at 7:03 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I have cheated on my girlfriend of one and a half years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current exgirlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him four months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived one thousand miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only five months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and two months I was working with coworkers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about two months ago, one year and four months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, emailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldnt spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trust she thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I messed up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current exgirlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

  79. Chadams

    On May 17, 2011 at 7:13 am


    To Be honest I Dont know why I am writing this. But I feel compelled to share my story. I have cheated on my girlfriend of one and a half years. And I do not know why. I have always viewed it and the people who comit such a horrible act to be worthless. yet here I am. I have only ever had two relationships including the one I cheated in. My first relationship was with a girl who I thought I loved entirely, but I know this not to be true after being with my current exgirlfriend. my first girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly and with both guys and girls, and I dont belive she ever really loved me the whole three year relationship. we were engaged to be married when she left me for a close friend, and married him four months later. needless to say I was crushed. After that god awful relationship I decided not to try and find a relationship for a while and work on myself. but by Random chance I found the LOVE of my life, only a few months after the first relationship. I believe I knew it at the time but I was not fully ready for that kind of heartbreak again, so I concealed my true feelings, but decided to date her anyway. and it brought me SUCH happiness like I have never felt before. But at the time I was living with my sister and for some reason she decided she didnt like the idea of me being with this new girl. I lived one thousand miles away from her at the time and she picked up and left everything she knew to be with me. but day in and day out my sister told me I didnt really love this girl and that we wernt right for eachother, she would tell me how awful a person she was and how unhappy I was going to be. Well after leaving my sister with my girlfriend of only five months at the time everything was great between us, but what my sister had said had really gotton to me and I started picking appart my girlfriend for things I have currently come to adore. after being in the relationship for a year and two months I was working with coworkers who were cheating on their wives and would tell me daily of their escapades and how great it was. I believe that my previous relationship and what my sister had told me on top of my co-workers had put me in a fragile state of mind emotionally and was hurting the relationship. and about two months ago, one year and four months in, A much younger girl started flirting with me and for some reson I could not control myself, whether it was the new attention or the three previous factors or all of it combined (none of which are excuses in any way, I made the desicion), I texted, sexted, emailed, IMed this younger girl for two weeks. during the two weeks my girlfriend found out about the affair but for some reason I persisted in cheating even though I did not want to lose mt girlfriend. so finally at the end of this two weeks, I met up with this other girl, we kissed, and fooled around and that was it, and the entire time I could not perform. I was disgusted with the whole situation, and came home. I told my girldfriend who was extremely upset and hurt, I appologized begged and pleaded, and she decided to stay. She Honestly LOVED me So much. We moved a week later a few states away (it was the plan we had) but due to personal reasons she had to go home to her dads for a a few months, but we were still together and I thought happier than ever given the circumstances. she had planned on taking care of her bussiness, and returning to me. two weeks after she had left, she told me she wasnt able to stop thinking about me with the other girl and even though she loved me with all her heart she couldnt trust me anymore and couldnt spend the rest of her life with someone she couldnt trust she thought it best to say goodbye. It has been two weeks since then and she wont speak to me, or even text. she has told me she found someone a week ago. I write her letters every day and send her flowers, I even go as far as to text her goodmorning and night daily. But no response. Before she had left she told me she wanted to marry me and wanted to have kids the whole deal. and now She is saying the exact opposite and wont even speak to me. I have just recently stopped sending letters every day only once a week now, and I stopped texting because she asked me not to. I am at a loss here because I know I messed up really bad and commited an unforgivable sin against her. but she recently told one of my other sisters that she still loves me. I Love this Girl with all of my heart and I would Never do anything to hurt her again. I am completely commited to her and have even swore to myself that even if she decides never to get back with me that I will never take another lover or have any other relationship than with her. And I truly mean it, there is no doubt in my mind that my current exgirlfriend is the one woman I am supposed to be with in this life. I just dont know how to show her that after what I have done, because my actions do not speak my true feelings. I wish she would only give me the chance to let me show her, How much I care for and love her. I am at a loss, and I believe the only thing keeping me from killing myself for what I have done, is unjustified hope that one day she will return. I know I am a horrible person for doing what I did and deserve every ring of hell for it. But I also know where my allegience lies, With her. What do I do? How can I mend her shattered heart? I would do ANYTHING if I thought it would help. I need help, I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I am dieing inside.

  80. Hurting

    On May 25, 2011 at 4:19 am


    I cheated on my wife of 7 years. I was in denial about my problem. I am a good father but a terrible husband. The person I have been in the past is not the person I am today. I have caused my wife so much pain and hurt over this. Its made her question her self worth, which is a lot more than mine. She deserves a true love and someone that will show it to her all the time with no lies. She needs someone to be honest with her and supportive. She is a great woman. I was given all of this as a treasure from GOD, and I threw it away. When people who have cheated are caught you get those that want to fix things and those that ask for foregiveness. When you try to fix things you look at what you do and hopes that if you do enough things she will forget and take you back. Foregiveness means you do whatever it takes for her to heal and get better with no time table. There is no time limit on it. Very few can foregive and chances are you may not get to this until she is with another. But you do what you can to get her to foregive. Once she foregives you then you may have a chance to have her take you back from your actions. My wife has to heal before she takes me back. Therefore, I tell her I am sorry for losing her trust. Always be where I am suppose to be. If she has to take a step, I take two for her, meaning I help and support her in and out the house with out her asking. I put her first before everything but GOD. I show her I am a changed man that she can be count on. When she says or does hurtful things I take them and return love to her. Foregiveness has no time table. This can go on for years. Never do I give in. To get her forgiveness she can only determine when. Even if she chooses to move on, I will be there with open arms if comes a day she is willing to foregive. Now to people like me who has cheated, is the person you have hurt worth all this. If so you have a very slight small chance you get lucky and they come back to you. This is the price you must be willing pay for their love.

  81. priyatoma

    On June 17, 2011 at 5:10 pm


    hi, i have cought my boy friend cheated on me 2 times, still i gave him chance, within a month he cheated on me by have a dirty relation with a dirty woman, he feit sorry for what he did, but now he is with me but he doesnt love me like before he neither share a love relation wit me, now what should i do, we are regestered married and my parents want us to settle in this year. i dont feel his love like before, what should i do?

  82. Mongezi

    On June 19, 2011 at 3:34 am


    i have cheated on my girlfriend and she also did the same when i asked was she doing to get back to me she said yes,i love my girlfriend so much that i even forgave her for doing so but i fail to understand why did she come back to me if she has a guy.

  83. Natalie

    On June 22, 2011 at 4:50 pm


    I been cheated on after only 2 months into the relastionship. The feeling is not easy to control. I sit here and think as to why this happened, this soon Why would he want to be with someone else when things were really good. My boyfriend doesnt really have an asnwer as to why he cheated, but in all honesty we all know that it was because he only cared about one thing and that wa getting into the female\’s pants. I am extremelly hurt but I do LOVE him and I really fighting the urge to take him back and be with him. I know that this relationship will not work as I know that he will probably do this again and this pain is Unbearable, I wouldnt want to go through this again. He swears that this is not something that he will do EVER again and he thinks that the love that he has for me will keep him from doing this. But my thing is….. he said hoe much he loved me before? why didnt that make him say no before? I am so torned. I always hear \” Once a cheater, always a cheater\”

  84. No name

    On December 13, 2011 at 12:29 pm


    I had ONS w/a guy when I first having a break after dating my Bf for a week, after things were better w/my Bf…I went to a trip w/that guy again, but we didn’t hav sex this time.
    After 3 months dating w/Bf, I know he’s the one for me, and he loves me very much too. He asked me to come clean few weeks ago, and I did tell him all him lies I’ve made. He accepted me.
    During he whole time after I came clean and promised I won’t do anything to hurt him or lie to him again…even thought we were happily together, we also cried together almost everyday…so I decided to lie to him again, saying that nothing actually happened between me and the other guy…I don’t know if it’s gonna work or not
    Since I heard from the gf of the guy I slept with, he has sex disease while that time I’ve been w/him…if I can prove myself that I don’t have any diseases, I can tell this lie that I didn’t sleep w/that guy right?

  85. No name

    On December 13, 2011 at 12:35 pm


    I had ONS w/a guy when I first having a break after dating my Bf for a week, after things were better w/my Bf…I went to a trip w/that guy again, but we didn\’t hav sex this time.
    After 3 months dating w/Bf, I know he\’s the one for me, and he loves me very much too. He asked me to come clean few weeks ago, and I did tell him all him lies I\’ve made. He accepted me.
    During he whole time after I came clean and promised I won\’t do anything to hurt him or lie to him again…even thought we were happily together, we also cried together almost everyday…so I decided to lie to him again, saying that nothing actually happened between me and the other guy…I don\’t know if it\’s gonna work or not
    Since I heard from the gf of the guy I slept with, he has sex disease while that time I\’ve been w/him…if I can prove myself that I don\’t have any diseases, I can tell this lie that I didn\’t sleep w/that guy right?

  86. abigail

    On January 27, 2012 at 12:02 am


    I was with this guy for three years and,
    we were in love. Everything was going
    fine until I started to find pictures and
    letters of other girls. He would tell me
    they were old but, I knew something
    was wrong so I broke up with him.
    Days later we were back together,
    I found a video of him a his ex having sex,
    he said it was old, we broke up again then
    we got back together for Valentines day
    we got tattoos of each others from Dr.(Gbocotemple@yahoo.com)
    and since we have been happily married with two kids thanks to Dr.Gboco

  87. brana

    On February 8, 2012 at 6:39 am


    i am brana i lives in slovakia and i was in a serious relationship with my ex guy for three good years..

    One day we were in a dinner party, we had a little misunderstanding which lead to a quarrel and he stood up and left me at the dinner party.

    i try to call him but he was not picking my calls so after than i contacted my brother and told him about it,my brother so much love me that he had to see him on my behalf,he told my brother that it is over between us..

    then i contacted a friend of mine that had this similar experience and she directed me to one of the spiritual diviner (redrocktemple@yahoo.com).at first i thought it was not going to be possible and i contacted him i was ask to come up with a little requirement,so i did what i was ask to do, after 3 days i was in my office when my ex guy called me and was asking me to forgive him and come back to him.

    i was very surprise it was like a dream to me,so ever since we have been happily married with one kid my lovely

    baby(Ceslav)…i wish you the best of luck…

  88. Joel

    On February 26, 2012 at 11:33 am


    Hello, i am Tara
    Last month, it was my birthday, and a time when I experienced another loss in my family. I was in total depression also because the gentleman I had been seeing for nearly a year decided to cut ties with me. All this happened at the same time, and my heart was broken. Then I found Dr Ijebu online, and all my luck turned around – especially because the master did a wonderful spell of Love for me and my dearest companion, who decided he had made a terrible mistake by leaving me. We even took a much-needed vacation. It meant the world to me, and I have you to thank for it. ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com

  89. claire

    On April 26, 2012 at 12:51 pm


    My life is back!!! After 7 years of marriage, my husband left me and left me with our three kids. I felt like my life was about to end, and was falling apart. I contacted freemercytemple@yahoo.com for help to get my husband back and after I explained all my problem, he cast the Save My Marriage Spell for me. In just 1 week, my husband came back to us. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before. Thank you Doctor messiah.

  90. HUDSON

    On May 3, 2012 at 3:02 am


    THE FREE MERCY TEMPLE ALSO CAST THE WIN THE CASINO SPELL FOR ME AND I AM HAPPY FOR MY LIFE.

  91. javier

    On August 9, 2012 at 3:28 am


    i cheated on my girlfriend who’m i’ve been dating for over 7 months .. a girl randomely started texting me, she went to school with me for one year while i was a senior and she was a junior but i never talked to her… after we kept texting each other we decided to hang out and when we hung out i found out that she didnt have a boyfriend and i thougtht she did because she always walked with a guy he was dating when we were in school but i guess they had broke up.. after i found out she didnt have a boyfriend i never told her i had a girlfriend and i kept talking to her for two weeks until my girlfriend found out that i hung out with that girl and that i kissed her thats all that happened, she doesn;t trust me she’s rude and mean sometimes this happenned two weeks ago, i love her very much but its hard to be happy with her i know its gonna take time to heal, so what should i do in the mean time to make her feel better !?

  92. hede

    On August 28, 2012 at 11:30 pm


    I will love to share my testimony to all my friends because i never believe i will have my girlfriend back. When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her Facebook and she changed her Facebook status.when i went to her to her place of work she told her friends she never want to see me.I tried all i could do to have her back with me but all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to meet my aunt.I told her my problem and i all have passed through in getting her back and how she embarrass me in her place of work,he told me he is going to help me but don’t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him,he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back home the following day and i called him when i got home,he said he is busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 3 days that is Thursday. My girlfriend called me at exactly 10:35am on Thursday and apologies for all she had done, she said she never knew what she’s doing she promised not to do that again.It was like am hallucinating when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my girlfriend called me on phone apologies. Am posting this to the forum for everybody that is interested in meeting the man for help this is his email address :alomaspelltemple@gmail.com All i have to say is THANK YOU DOCTOR

  93. Precious Pretty

    On September 24, 2012 at 5:20 am


    There is this great spell caster on the internet i just met through a friends description and he have just helped me to get back my lover i am so glad that i met with him he is just on the internet to help people and i am among those he have helped and i am telling you to also go and get hold of your own solution as he shall soon be living the internet he said he was sent on a mission to the internet to come and help people and to make those who are at a cross road be back to life just meet him with your problems and consider it solved Templeofloveandmoney@gmail.com

  94. gladys

    On September 30, 2012 at 8:59 pm


    All thanks to DR SESELE for the reuninting spell he cast for me,this man is the best spell caster i have ever come across since i have been contacting spell caster, all i have come across appear to be scammers, since i have been a victim of fake spell caster i thought the man i love so much will never cme back to me again, until a friend of mine show me the right way to DR SESELE, i also thought he was one of the scammer who appear to be real, until he prove his powers that he is not a scam,.
    well readers out there DR SESELE is the best spell caster i will ever recommend for anybody, cause he is indeed a great spell caster, and it will be of great sin if i should leave here without dropping the contact of this man for you too, please contact DR SESELE for help via email: solutionseattemple@gmail.com
    DR SESELE YOUR TEMPLE IS REALLY A SOLUTION SEAT WHERE SOMEONE NEED TO SEAT ON.

    Gladys michele

  95. miss. deborah collins

    On October 14, 2012 at 4:05 am


    the man that bring back my ex love

    My name is miss. deborah collins from houston,texas.i never believed in love spells or magic untill i met this spell caster once. when i went to africa in june last year on a business summit. i meet this man called dr. koko.is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love’s gone,misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 2 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 4 years… i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job. so when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him..at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. and in 6 days when i returned to texas, my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married..i didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid,and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better. in case anyone needs the spell caster for any kind of help, email address dr.kokotemple@gmail.com

  96. Anita

    On October 24, 2012 at 10:34 am


    I can’t thank you enough for all that you have done for me. About 4 months ago I and my partner split up, we had both made BIG mistakes in our relationship. He ended up moving away from me to pursue a new life. I knew in my heart that he would be the only one to make me happy. I was relieved when I found your site and what you had to offer. I requested reunite love spell and within three days he relocated back to our hometown where I still lived. We immediately reconnected and move in with each other. Our wedding date is set for Summer 2012. Expect you to contact him via email
    ancientijebudespelltemple@gmail.com when you are in similar problem like mine.

    Thank you! Anita, United Kingdom.

  97. Prisca

    On October 29, 2012 at 8:40 pm


    My situation was hopeless me and my husband was on the verge of divorce. I was in a awful state and felt that I was not able to cope with life any longer. I found Dr.Muku Love Spells and tried one. Well, he did return and now we are doing well again, more than ever i so much believe in him email to contact him is here below mukumukushrine@gmail.com

  98. Velvet

    On November 12, 2012 at 8:07 pm


    Emotionally have been disturbed for a while and i came to a conclusion that i was not meant to love and possible die of loneliness…..i tried all i could to get my ex

    back but all to no avail
    Alot of people here have been writing good things here on TOPIX about professor Lucy
    initially i never belived and of the posts and testimonials cos have once fallen victim to a fake spellcaster but the real mind in me gave it a trial
    i contacted him and he said some prayers for me and that was the begining of the solutions to my problems
    in a nut shell,my ex who happened to be the mother of my child came back to me after 7 days of the prayers
    professor Lucy is simply the most powerful spell caster one can ever trust
    you can also contact him if you are having the same type of predicament,contact him via :spirituallove@hotmail.com

  99. Laura Johnson

    On November 18, 2012 at 10:47 am


    Hello
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  100. Wilfred

    On November 21, 2012 at 7:26 am


    I and my girlfriend brokeup just because i could not tolerate seeing her hanging out with guys that she claims to have nothing with but call them just mere friends.
    I could not take it anymore because i love her so much and though am jealous seeing other guys around her, i need her to understand that and respect that as well. But reverse was the case. she told me she was tired and could not continue, she complains that i dont trust her so how sure our relationship would lead to marriage.
    I was so devastated and could not lose my love just for my selfish reasons. so i found this spell lady online who then did a love spell to bring her back and made our relationship more closer than ever and even more happier. The spell lady did help my life, my job because i could not focus on anything, and even brought my lover back in to my life.
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  101. gorgemencer

    On November 25, 2012 at 9:35 am


    My girlfriend recently ended a 2 year relationship a few weeks ago. She said she wanted more time to do her own thing and not have to worry about being with someone. To me that meant she was looking for other people. But now shes saying shed rather not hook up with random guys, but i want to thanks to prophetharry@ymail.com from the bottom of my heart. after i received a love spell form prophet after some days my girlfriend realize that it was a mistake for living me for another guy. I happy now that things are better since prophet harry cast the spell to my girlfriend back.
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  102. dr

    On November 27, 2012 at 7:39 am


    You need to break someone’s password because you do not trust?
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  103. Brianna

    On December 21, 2012 at 3:13 pm


    Hello every one i have just met with this reunitingexspellgmail.com and i finally find out that he is really a truthful spell caster and so powerful and i believe that he is the most powerful spell caster that i have ever met. how i wish i met him before. my husband would have just come back to me.and every thing happened just the way Dr. Magbu had said it,i am so happy that i have met with Dr. Magbu,and now i have my husband back to my self. if you all that are here have not tried Dr. Magbu,just have to do so and get your heart desires fulfilled. stop been doubting i have tested him and i am now a fulfilled woman. And that’s why i am out on the internet today, testifying of what he has done for me and my husband, if you were in my situation contact him through this email reunitingexspell@gmail.com Brianna

  104. sabrina

    On March 11, 2013 at 9:34 pm


    I found out I was pregnant just after two week of breakup with my boyfriend. Immediately I knew I had to have an abortion. There was no way I was ready to have a child, by my self without my boyfriend, and I wasn’t strong enough to go through an abortion because i love my bf more than words can say. I had to tell him about it but he refuse to accept and say why must it be after the breakup. I know I want my lover back but how? Because i cant go through this pregnancy alone. From the moment I seek for spiritual help online then I found a woman who do spell her Esango priest, People were talking good about her on reuniting issues, I contacted her with her email esangopriest@hotmail.com, I never really have an idea how this things work but she sounds so real and straight forward. She gave me hope that in 3days i would have my bf back to carter for me and love me even more than i ever expected., I gave her what she requested for and Just as she said, 3days later my bf come back asking for forgiveness and pleading that if i don’t accept him he would commit suicide. Esango priest is more than a spell caster. The moment when a woman needs to do what’s best for herself even if it’s hard for her, and I’m proud to say I did that we are married now with our child.

  105. sabrina

    On March 16, 2013 at 3:14 am


    I admit i was skeptical about magic spells, for me it was just a movie thing though I was ready to try anything to get my husband back, which I did with this spell Esango priest have cast for me.I think I wouldn’t have done it if it wasn’t this spell caster. The other casters I contacted seemed to care only for money and nothing else, but I’ve appreciated the fact that Esango priest seemed much caring about my problem than all of them. magic water I was hurt and depressed when my lover of five years left me for another woman. One friend suggested the idea to contact a spell caster, which I would have never thought of myself. I contacted a few of them but Esango priest was the person I felt good with. he was understanding, replied all my emails promptly and patiently. Then I decided to place an order for his spell even if at that time I was still a bit skeptical about his capacity to bring my man back with me. Only 1 week after the spell was actually cast, he returned to me and since then, it seems that there is no more mistrust and no more lies between us. For that reason, I am gladly leaving a testimonial on this page, which I believe will help persons to choose Esango priest for their case his email is esangopriest@hotmail.com

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