Relationships

For those that have loved or are currently loving, congrats, but that doesn’t mean the heart ache and the hard work is done. It’s a relationship therefore you both have to work at it all the time to keep it going. We love people in different ways in different relationship but they are all in some way, work.

Our relationships with our parents are love but work. You couldn’t just ignore your over bearing mother or your over protective father. You have to understand yourself as well as the individual to love properly. I cannot tell you how to love properly you’ll know when it’s proper because the love will be reciprocated.

Relationships with our friends are even more work but worth it. Without friends to support, entertain, and be there for you life would get boring and very lonely. Because relationships with our friends are so much work we fight harder with them when it gets tough then we would do in most relationships. Whether it’s jealousy, the root of all evil, or it’s mere lacking attention it hurts far worse when your friends are ignoring you them your father because friends are not forever, your father is. Friends can cut you out; although parents could too they are more apt to forgive their own flesh and blood. I find it sad when someone loses a friend because of the relationship being too hard. Yes it should be easy but maybe they just needed the other side to work a bit more. Relationships aren’t 80% one and 20% the other it should be a 50/50 ratio but all too often its one giving and the other receiving. Why aren’t we fair in our relationships? Wouldn’t life be easier?

Without sounding like SJP on SATC, relationships with our lovers, boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses are on a whole another level of work. They aren’t the relationships like parents that have work but know they’ll be there, they are the type of relationships like friends that are work but could cut you out in a minute, the work involved in relationships are just as mental as any of these above mentioned relationship but with physical attachments. When someone gets physical and mentally involved the love that is shared is beautiful and some even deeply connected which makes the work that much harder.

When you truly love someone and trouble arises I can see why people literally go crazy.  It’s the love that has made someone so defensive in their position that is actually blinded by the reality of what they fight over. I bet if half of the fights that lovers have between each other were put on camera and they were forced to re-watch themselves they would be appalled at their own behavior and the make up would be hot and heavy.

Money, sex, and jealousy the three most popular reasons relationships of all kinds end.  So how do we love? I can only give my opinions but life is too short not to work at our relationships. Too many people these days give up, they give up on friends, on families, and on lovers, spouses etc. Look at the divorce rate, look at the kids running away from home, look at some of the friends you have lost over the years; no one wants to work at relationships anymore. Love takes work and in the end it’s worth it but are we willing to work?