Relationships and How They Differ From Grandma’s
It was a different time and because of that we have had to face different challenges.
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You remember when your grandparents were married for 50 years and that wasn’t all that unusual back then. Relationships seemed to last and divorces were few and that has many people wondering why. The roles as husband and wife with your grandparents were very simple. Now… don’t misunderstand me…. life was hard but their roles were pretty much black and white. The husband had to provide for his family by making sure to put a roof over their heads and food on the table, even if it meant two jobs. The wife was to make sure all her family needs were met as far as clean clothes, dinner on the table, the children made it to school on time, homework was done, and baths were taken before bed. If the wife had an opinion it was usually her husbands as that was where she would get most of her information as they would share conversation in the evening. She was always anxious for him to come home and would enjoy his company and he to was anxious to come home as he worked hard all day and just the sight of his wife and children would always put a smile on his face. There was always church on Sunday morning and everyone looked forward to a chicken dinner with warm biscuts. For the most part… this was a typical marriage and it was this kind of love that would influence all the love stories ever told .
As the years go by it is getting harder and harder for the men to make ends meet. The stress is starting to show it’s ugly head as the cost of living slowly climbs. While on one hand there have been changes to make life easier for us… on the other it is actually making it economically harder. Families are no longer growing a lot of their own food which in turn causes frequent trips to the grocery store . Clothes were being bought when at one time the art of sewing and knitting was a way of life. The inventions that have poured out into the homes to make our lives easier has also put a strain on the monthly budgets as the electric bills climb. Don’t get me wrong.. I love my washer, dryer, dish washer, and cell phone…. but it all comes with a price. The husbands can no longer make enough money to pay all the bills at the end of the month and stress has now become a part of the relationship. It’s not long before a second vehicle is needed and women are slowly forced into the work force just to make ends meet. As the woman tries to work and still do her role as wife and mother… the rules of the roles have started to take a change. Soon there are many women entering the work force and for a lot of men… this was a turn on. For a lot of women… it gave them an opportunity to meet other men and now they’re away from home and some find that this is actually a good change… see where I’m going with this?? There soon became a new phrase that for the most part explains a lot of what has happened to our children.. it is “a latch key child”. Children were coming home from school to an empty home and soon that was the norm.
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Post CommentChristine Ramsay
On February 27, 2009 at 8:41 am
That is a thought provoking argument and I can identify with much of what you have said. A great job.
Christine
Lee Altman
On February 27, 2009 at 8:56 am
Great work, I am only 42 but I can still remember the days when a hand shack was the same as a verbal contract, If only time we could keep some of the ways of the good old days alive,
Lee
Drew Diligence
On February 27, 2009 at 10:02 am
This is by far your best work.
I remember my youth with a rose tinted affection; but I wouldn’t give up the modern conveniences to go back to it.
Karelee
On February 27, 2009 at 10:24 am
Thank you all for your input…
Christine… I so enjoy all your writings and it means so much that you take the time to not only review mine but leave a comment.
Lee.. Just met you and actually read some of your work. Thank you for leaving me a comment and will look forward to reading more of yours.
Drew.. May I just say.. “WOW” It’s not as good as my “Homeward Bound”… Oh wait.. that was yours!! I feel like I just got a compliment from Simon’s American Idol!! This is definitely a good day knowing I can continue to the next round!!
Have a great day … Karelee
Adam Henry Sears
On February 27, 2009 at 4:11 pm
Hi, Karelee, how are you?
I believe the rules are still the same. I believe that it is the opinions of people that have changed over the years, not necessarily the use or abuse of the rules. The facets of living, after all, have been the same for thousands of years: technologies and more freedoms have simply released more views on the issues, not created or modified any of the rules of life. That coupled with the fact that marriage is no longer viewed as a life-long covenant. That, of course, is simply my view on the issue. Thanks for sharing.
Karelee
On February 28, 2009 at 6:15 am
Hi Adam.. I’m fine and so glad that this article has given you food for thought and I totally respect your views. Just the fact that it has made you share your view tells me that I have done my job as a writer.. thanx again and it’s always a pleasure to read your comments… I may not always agree… but I do enjoy them. You have been a good writer friend
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Karelee
Tammy Wyrick
On February 28, 2009 at 1:48 pm
I thought about writing a comment here, but you again inspired me to write an article somethng like this one. I think I might call it, “Simpler times now long time gone” My explaination of why my life has been just a struggle and still is.
Morgana
On February 28, 2009 at 3:48 pm
Can I get a mixture of technology, new advances, and simple life? People say is not possible , but I’m willing to try.I want to be able to cook for my future children and future husband, work, go dancing in a club in a city,use cell phones,my computer,washer machine, and live in a place with lots of trees.
Debra.
On March 9, 2009 at 11:45 am
Well Karelee, I have to agree with you 100%. The rules were indeed a lot simpler because women were stay at home moms, knitting, taking care of domestic chores. Today the men are unable to find work, the woman are working, which in itself puts a strain a relationship because their tends to come onto play the bread winner. The bread winner use to be the mans role. Now it seems the rules and the roles have changed so much because along with society.The people have changed because the rules have changed,thus, changing the face of society. No one knows what their roles are anymore. It was much simpler back then. Like my dad use to say, everyone knew their place.
Very good write, my friend and point well noted.
Phill Senters
On April 2, 2009 at 5:02 pm
I have to agree with Adam, it’s not the rules that have changed, it’s the roles and the perception of the rules. Everybody knows the rules, they just to do otherwise nowadays.