Relationships and The “Third Party”

The third party in any relationship simply refers to any person, aside the two persons involved in such relationship.A third party could be a friend, colleague, parents,extended family members or even a child or children(in the case of marriage relationships).

A proper knowledge of how to handle the third party goes a long way in ensuring a peaceful and healthy relationship.The third party play a great role in every relationship at any point in time and as such,cannot be completely ignored.There are two perpectives to this issue of a third party,i.e friendship and marriage.

The third party in friendship

­ The relationship between any two friends,be it individuals,bodies,countries or otherwise,can be either positively or negatively affected by the influence of a third party,depending on how the friends handle it. Lets see it from the point as discussed below.

NON SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP:

This form of relationship is not peculiar to any age or gender.A knowledge of the shortcomings of a friend and how to properly tackle such shortcomings leaves little or no room for third parties with the intent of taking advantage of it.

For the youths,parental guidance is a necessity and a parent plays the role of a third party in this case.The youth is supposed to welcome the parents advice on affairs of friendship and in all wisdom,sieve such advice to his or her benefit and not detriment.

SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP:

The ‘voyage’ is most pleasurable when the ‘sailors’ see themselves as best of friends and not just travelers on board the same ship.Here,the ‘voyage’ is love and the ‘sailors’ are the supposed lovers.Best of friends may listen to gossips but do not act on gossips.Best of friends keep little to no secrets from each other.Best of friends are long-suffering.Best of friends are best at caring for each other.Third parties often times build question marks behind these virtues.

POLITICAL RELATIONSHIP:

The relationship between a country and another can either foster or adversely affect the economy of either countries.A perverse or stronger country can create some sort of enmity between two friendly countries,especially when the third party country stands a chance of benefiting financially or otherwise,from such disagreement.

The government of a country is supposed to thread with caution when it has to do with seeking external advice or aid.Such advice or aid may be one that is not favourable to a friend of hers.

The third party in marriages:

The third party is accountable for most failed marriages.Affected spouses allow this ‘mild destroyer’ build its attack over a period of time.

The individuals involved in marriages are to decide what they want and what their marriage should be, not their parents, friends, in-laws or colleagues.

Spouses are supposed to resolve issues between themselves and not run else where to complain or seek solution at the slightest instance.

The third party should be brought into a marriage only when every other attempt to resolve problems privately (internally) makes no headway.

Let me draw the curtains by adding this,every attempt should be made by friends,bodies,countries,spouses,etc.to see that the third party doesn’t dictate the pace in their relationships.