Relationships by the Numbers
by About divorce and relationships.
It is my belief that there is not one person in the world for each person. I think we make a decision and it is our jobs to make it work. Sometimes that is going to be a struggle. We as humans do not always meet eye to eye. However, in a relationship it is our job to put our partner first and truly make things work through “good times and bad”. It scares me to see a divorce rate that has jumped over the years. A lot of this is about marriage. However, I think it all goes hand and hand with all relationships. They don’t keep track of that type of stuff unless you are married. I think this trend is the same for serious relationships as well.
According to Enrichment Journal on the divorce rate in America:
The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%
Is it just people rushing to get married and the fact that divorce is more acceptable now. Or is it the fact that as a society we don’t want to deal with anything that isn’t perfect. We would rather trade in that older model car, even though it runs fine, and pick ourselves out something that looks better or doesn’t have the small imperfections. The thing you don’t realize is that the new car will eventually end up in the same position. We as society would rather not deal with the normal upkeep it needs to keep that car running. I feel we do the same with relationships. The above info shows that. If you were willing to walk away form one marriage, statistically you will almost always do the same. If you aren’t willing to work on things, why would it work?
If a couple is truly dedicated to a relationship it will withstand the test of time. There will be fights, there will be times where you want to rip each other apart. However, this is all standard upkeep. It’s how we grow and learn from our partner. At times perhaps our age may play a factor in our willingness to work things out. Take a look at this data.
Age at marriage for those who divorce in America
AGE Women Men
Under 20 27.6% 11.7%
20-24 36.6% 38.8%
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Post CommentRuth Langner
On December 24, 2008 at 4:34 am
I think when we make a commitment to someone, especially in a marriage, one needs to understand that you will never find the perfect person. There is no one on this earth the same as another. As the saying goes, there is no such thing as loving the perfect person but rather loving the imperfect person perfectly.