Relationships – How?

Family Relationships

As they say, you can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family. The relationship you have with your family could potentially be the most influential one you have with anybody in your whole life. This is because, if the bond is strong enough, your family will always be there for you, no matter what.

However, there are always family members who we don’t like. And how do we cope with that? My advice would be to grin and bear it; there are no worse arguments than family feuds. This is because if a couple of members of the family fall out, others are most likely to get involved and this results in large scale fall outs which could have easily been prevented.
The family unit is on in which trust is of upmost importance. Your immediate family (parents and siblings, or partners and children) will no doubt know a lot about you, as you will know a lot about them. It is important not to break this trust by spreading their secrets, as once trust is broken, it is notoriously difficult to regain.

Your family will always be there for you, and you should cherish and take care of them.

Friendships

These relationships are different to family ones, in that you can choose who you form friendships with. My advice would be that you should look for people with common interests to yourself, as this allows for you to have talking points during conversations. This being said, it is important to have at least some differences, otherwise you may face the potential of becoming rivals rather than friends.

You should try to expand your social network whenever you can. The more solid a person’s social network, the happier they can be with their lives and themselves. This is because they then have many people to turn to during a crisis, which means that they can get help whenever they need it.
The thing you have to be careful about is fallouts. Especially in group based friendships, fallouts can be nasty, and can have very nasty effects on the whole group, not just the individuals who have had an argument. If a fallout takes place, you should take care to talk through any issues you may have with a friend, and allow them to voice any issues they may have with you also.
You should try to do different things with your friends, like try different bars and places to eat out, different activities, and, if you both have children, maybe encourage them to socialise with each other.

Romantic Relationships
These are possibly the trickiest of all relationships. If you believe in fate, then you must believe that there is one person in the world who you are meant to be with. With billions of people in the world, surely it isn’t all that likely that you’ll meet that person at all.
If you’re slightly less cynical like myself, you will be happy to go with the flow and see where life takes you, while having a little fun along the way. I think it’s best, when looking for a relationship, to get to know people as friends before you get romantically attached, as then you’ll know what they’re really like, plus your friendship groups may have been partially merged, which will of course make the formation of any relationship a lot easier for the both of you.