Resurrect the Romance in Your Marriage

by magwealth in Relationships, April 6, 2009

So you have been married for four or five years probably 10 years now. You are feeling a little unappreciated, ignored like every slow down sign on a highway. You are wondering what killed the romance in your marriage? Do you desire to resurrect that romance?

Remember when you met your partner? You could not stop thinking about him. You wanted to spend every minute together. You scribbled sweet nothing notes and tucked them in places you were sure only him would find them. Remember how much you wished you could spend the rest of your life with him? He was the song in your lips, the only word that made sense in your life. Then he finally proposed and you hit it off. You got married to the love of your life!

Now all that romance history? A once-upon-a-time story, with an unhappy ending. Romance is defined as the emotional attachment with gusto leading to the feeling of affection that is unafraid to share all. Or so it seems right now. He seems ever busy trying to provide, the hunter who is never satisfied with his catch. You live in the same house with this stranger, sharing the same room, the stranger in your bed! Why on earth did you ever get married anyway? The roses in the romance are dead, the fire in it all died down after you settled down with him for life. You now feel taken for a ride. But for the sake of the children you chose to stay, at least to give them the peace they deserve. “This is too much”, you say. Even the door mat at the door step is more recognized than you are in your own house. What went wrong in this marriage? How did the romance fire die and who killed it?

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Just before you pack your bags and leave this stranger called your husband, just before you hit the road and break the sense of the love you once vowed, just before you spit the promises you once made, let us reason together!

You see, romance in a marriage is like a muscle, you train everyday and the muscle tones up and is attractive to feel and look at. Romance is the kind of fire that you cannot dare leave someone else to watch for you, you add the wood lighter logs first and as the days go by you will need heavier and thicker logs. Romance is like a flower garden, you attend to it, and it shines with beauty. Romance and selflessness are inseparable. Your marriage depends on them; you cannot take any of them for granted.

How do you bring back romance into your marriage?