Rules of the Perfect Spouse
by Getting marriage right (and keeping it there) is not as hard as you might think, especially with this guide to help you keep the love alive.
Love does not keep you safe from pain and anguish, nor guarantee that you will not hurt the one you love just as much. What love does guarantee is that you will always be able to find that magical forgiveness, both for your spouse and for yourself.
You will hurt. You will feel pain unlike anything you’ve ever imagined. You will feel despair, and hopelessness. And, if you’re paying attention, you’ll realize that it does not matter in the slightest.
Because the only thing that matters is love. Even if you feel betrayed, always remember these rules. If you do, and you do your very best, then you will be loved in return.
Your spouse will make mistakes. They will come in all shapes and sizes. Nothing is off limits. But your spouse will love you more than anything in this world, and will do anything for you. There will be days that he/she will make you smile that you wouldn’t have. There will be moments of total contentment, where you are utterly at peace, and all because he/she is there. There will be times of joy, times of bliss, and times of exuberance. You will know happiness unlike anything you can imagine.
And you will know love. Love opens us up to be hurt, but it gives us even greater joy in return, if only we let it. It gives us the strength to face the challenges of life; it makes the hardest days worth living for, and the brightest days blinding.
No matter who we are, or what we accomplish in this life, in the end, all we are is the love that we’ve shared. That is the simple secret of life: love. Love with all your heart, all your spirit, and everything you’ve got. Hold on to your love with all your strength, and you’ll find that you have more strength than you’ve ever thought.
So go the extra mile. Appreciate those labors of love, and do your part too. Be there when he/she needs it, and make all the cares of the world fade away. And forgive each other, and forgive yourself.
Your love is the essence of you life – and your spouse’s. Above all else, never forget that. Because, in the end, nothing else matters.
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Post CommentJessica
On February 23, 2010 at 12:19 am
This article is by far the best I’ve EVER read about relationships. It’s the cold, hard, ugly truth. I’m thankful for this article, it’s made me think of things that I hadn’t before and it was so obvious.
Thank you so much!
Margaret
On March 19, 2010 at 9:21 pm
After reading a lot of marriage self-help that is ridden with stereotypes, yours is amazingly refreshing. You don’t try to imply that gender is tied down to certain weaknesses. When I read stereotype infused self-help, I begin to feel as though I’m impossibly flawed, that certain weaknesses are innate and can only be overcome through self-mutilation. Yet your advice reaches to the core and uplifts me to be humble and to give love unconditionally. Thanks!