Same Sex Long Term Friendships
by Having good trusted friends to go out with and have fun with is great but make sure they are trustworthy. Do you share the same values or will that person steal from you? Do you even know what their values are?
Life is in the eye of the beholder. We have some clicks of both men and women who truly believe they have been abused although many of their siblings believe it was merely a punishment well deserved when they got the same or similar treatment. They did survive the punishment and in many ways became stronger people for it; in their eyes that isn’t good enough. So depending on what your personal outlook on life is you may want to be wary and make sure you know who your friends are and what they are all about before getting in too good with them. I have found people I thought were my friends did me more harm then good because our views on life issues were different.
It is important to have friends you know you can talk to and depend on that have similar interests and views as you do. Good friends are hard to find and not everyone you meet ends up being a friend much less a good friend. Take one day or night a week to go out with the guys/girls and do something together that is fun. Keep in touch with your friends even if they end up transferred elsewhere; become pen pals, send pictures to each other, you never know when you might get the opportunity to go see them.
One thing to remember, when telling your friend’s anything you think is wrong with your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife make sure it stays strictly between you and them; venting is a stress relief as well as a way to work out problems. It is unwise to have your friends come to or call your home you share with your significant other half and have them call your other half down because of something you’ve said to them. That will cause lots of pain and drama you don’t want or need in your life. If your friends do it often enough your other half will most likely tell you to choose him/her or them but that you can’t have it both ways. I learned from past experience that if my boyfriend or husband did that to me again I’d just pack my bags and leave. It’s better then living with the bitterness of a man who’d lost his friends; better he should live alone without his wife.
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