Saving Troubled Marriages

Is their any marriage without trouble?

Every marriage has storms, waves and challenges, which could come up at any point in time in its life span. Some of these challenges and storms can be easily settled, tackled and calmed and the marriage moves on as if those challenges never came while some come and prove to be stubborn and if not wisely and carefully approached, could lead to what actually could be called a troubled marriage.

Dr. Ray E. in the 32nd page of his book, Sex Love and romance, posits that a successful marriage “happy and it must be permanent.” The absence of happiness in a marriage creates an appearance of trouble, diillusionment, unfufilment, dissatisfaction and a death of a once cherished dream.

When a marriage is not happy, there is the tendency of seperation, which is dangerous and a great enemy to the permanence that doctor Ray sees as an important factor of a successful marriage. Also, there is communication gap and the couple becomes irritable and unpleasant to each other, that glow that used to be there dies.

How to save an unhappy marriage from going down to the pit entirely, from resulting to separation has really been a nagging question on the minds of families with such cases.

Although some troubled marriages can be resolved by the couple laying down their pride, admitting their faults and finding ways to make things work out, some can only be resolved by divorce. That would be the only way to bring back peace, sanity and happiness back to the life of the couple involved.

Although divorce is unsavory to some people and considered to be against religious interest, it seems to be the best option when the union has become unbearable.

The troubles in a marriage can escalate or turn worse that the possibility of achieving its potentials becomes dicey. When such becomes the case, the best thing would be for the couple to separate. This decision should be made after a long and careful consideration.  

Some marriages based on falsehood and built on pretense are bound to crumble unless the couple decides to stick it out because of the children that might have come up, religion, money or other reasons. Another kind of problem that can be settled with divorce is infidelity. Some infidelities can be pardoned but some get very serious that the only thing that can bring peace is separation. It is also said that physical abuse can be settled by separation but this also depends on the enormity of the abuse. Instead of a party to be killed by the other or his/her physical features or strength maimed and if the cause of the physical abuse can not be resolved, the best thing would be for them to separate.

Although the Christian church sees marriage institution as established by God and indissoluble by mere human action, divorce should be encouraged if the reasons are sufficient and if the causes of the troubled marriage has been looked at critically as irresolvable.