Saving Your Marriage Before It Falls Apart
by This article outlines the importance of working on your marriage before the problems grow. It gives several practical guidelines for making a marriage better.
Being encouraging in the difficult times of stress is also important to the relationship. Too many times, one partner will choose a time of intense stress to critique the other partner’s performance as a spouse. Kicking each other at a low point in life and the relationship is a really bad plan. Help each other get through the tough stretch and then evaluate mistakes and make positive plans for the next rough place in life. Your spouse needs to know that even if a mistake is made, you will be supportive and work through the situation together.
Do small unexpected acts of kindness at random times
While you want to remember the big things like anniversaries and birthdays, you should not need a major excuse to do something nice for your spouse. Send a card, flowers, or a small gift to your spouse at a time when it is not expected or the result of guilt. You do not want to overplay this game, but several times per year would not be too much.
Avoid the temptation to cheat
Just because the opportunity may present itself, do not give in to cheating on your mate. Even if you believe that you will never be caught, the act of cheating weakens you bond with your spouse. If it is discovered, it can end a marriage. It is far better to just never let this happen than to try to fix it later.
Be honest and fair about money
A selfish spouse can dent a marriage quicker than one might realize. When one partner believes that he or she deserves to spend any amount of the family income on self-indulgent purchases, it will eventually create a rift between the partners. One partner will see the other as wasteful and willing to put the family at risk for selfish desires.
Keep one another informed regarding the financial well-being of the marriage. If the bills are too high and the bank account is running low, do not feel that you need to always fix it without the help of your spouse. Keeping the financial boat afloat in the marriage is a shared responsibility. Make sure that the information in this area is accurate and frequently shared.
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Post Commentlindalulu
On March 13, 2009 at 9:37 am
Such wonderful information and advice.
Ori Sonata
On March 13, 2009 at 11:53 am
I like the “Be encouraging to each other during times of success and times of stress” part. That surely make the relationship really worth the troubles.