Scared of Commitment

            Some people just don’t like commitment. It could mean being tied down, and when you see yourself as more of a free spirit it just doesn’t work out. But, maybe it’s really time to stop running and face a bit of commitment. It can be scary, but with time everything can work out. Maybe you’ll even stop relating commitment with condemnation.

            First of all you should probably start with little things. That is, don’t propose to someone if you’re scared to death of commitment. Before you even consider it think of your past relationships; do you have a problem with cheating or staying with one person for long periods of time? If you do, start with something that’s easy to commit to. Do something every day, or even just once a week. Anything from cooking to exercising should do. When you’ve mastered that (gone for over a month) then you can move on. *If you’re wondering why a month, it’s because once you do something for a month without fail it officially becomes a habit.

            In relationships first thing you have to do is make sure you can devote yourself to one person. That means no cheating, not even ‘harmless’ flirting. We all know where that can go. Stay focused on one person, and make your relationship last. Of course if things just aren’t working out don’t stay trapped in a relationship, but try to avoid avoidable break ups. After a few years of ups and downs, through happiness and stress, jealousy and bliss, you’ll probably find yourself deserving of a ring. If your still scared then, to be blunt, suck it up princess. They used to marry at fourteen.