Secrets to a Happy Marriage

 It was simple once. You got married, had kids and stayed put with your spouse, no matter what. The idea of going your separate ways wasn’t an option for most. But change is inevitable and this once sacred institution has undergone a massive one.

Marriage now is not above self-esteem and happiness in the list of priorities. If you are not satisfied, just quit.

With financial independence becoming the norm rather than the exception for both sexes, staying married requires a lot more effort.

Today it is about looking for reasons to be together. The willingness to do things for your spouse’s happiness shows your commitment to the cause. Little things like cooking your spouse’s favourite dish, even if you don’t like it, helps.

Being aware of each other’s feelings and open communication is also important. It is much like a business partnership where both parties are equally responsible for the profits and losses.

While open communication is a must, take care not to let financial concerns ruin your happiness. Always discuss your finances and share responsibility. Working together on this contentious issue will wipe out the feeling of being left out in either partner.

Marriage has to be nurtured. For that it is important to spend time and energy on it. Be open to the idea of making sacrifices from time to time. But, keep in mind that only a happy soul can be part of a happy partnership. So, give each other space. Do things on your own once in while. That way you will realize how much you miss your spouse when apart.

I think it was George Bernard Shaw who said, “Marriage has many worries, but celibacy has no joys.” So maintain an intimate and affectionate relationship. Small gestures like hugs and holding hands give you an opportunity to reconnect.

It is important to let your partner know if they have hurt you in some way. But be gentle. The idea is to clear the air not have a war of words.

Sharing household responsibilities gives couples opportunities to work as a team and strengthen their bond.

Disagreements happen. Understanding and respecting that it is part of the package will go a long way in helping the relationship.

Finally, never forget why you married your spouse. Always remember what drew you to them and the love will stay and survive all tidings.