Seven Easy Tips for Finding Romance
by It’s February, and the shops are full of cards covered in hearts. Everywhere you look there are cupids and messages of love; everything seems to be a shade of pink. If you’re in love yourself, the only problem is the staggering price of having a dozen red roses delivered. But what if your relationship seems to have lost its romance – or if you’re apparently the only single person in the world on Valentine’s night? There are no guarantees in love and romance, but these simple tips may help you find a special someone too.
People come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, and though the gossip magazines seem to delight in pointing out celebrities’ imperfections, the truth is that most of us won’t ever have a career as a catwalk model. But nobody looks their best wearing jogging bottoms and an old T-shirt, and everyone needs to have a shower now and then. So start with the basics: smell good, get a haircut, and dress to impress. This doesn’t mean squeezing into Size 0 fashions or wearing evening dress to Charley’s Bar; try to take a small step up from your normal clothes. A good rule of thumb is not to go out in something that you can’t wait to get home and take off, whether it’s killer heels or a comedy necktie.
Think Positive
You’re not the only person in this situation. Thousands of couples are partying on 14th February even though they don’t feel very romantic together. But some of them will come home again with the spark rekindled, and if you want that to be you, then start by believing it can happen, and happen tonight. And tens of thousands of people are single at any one time; chances are that there’s someone out there who’s looking for a partner just like you. If you stay at home alone, they’ll never get to meet you. So start believing in yourself as a romantic; it can make a huge difference.
See Yourself From the Other Person’s Point of View
Psychologists talk about whether a person shows empathy to another. Simply put, this means the ability to see things from the other person’s point of view, and it’s crucial in starting and maintaining new relationships. You’ll never manage to see the world exactly as another person does, but stop for a moment and think: is my twenty minute explanation of why my boss was wrong today really interesting – or could I seem to be just a little bit boring? Is my air of self-confidence coming across as “I’m God’s gift to this party”? Is my acid yellow and green jacket “embarrassing” rather than “unique”? Many relationships get into a rut when partners stop feeling empathy for each other; many fail to get off the ground precisely because there’s no empathy there. Try this: imagine honestly how you would feel if someone else acted or looked like you. If you’re cringing inside, then maybe you should make some changes.
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On February 12, 2009 at 9:19 pm
May be your tips are right, but I have recently got this feeling that most of the times there is no romantic point!!! When you love someone, it rarely happens that he or she loves you too.