Seven Fail-Proof Ways to Break the Ice with “Her”

Okay, maybe not fail proof but definitely a way to get those awkward silences out of the way. I can’t promise you anything but there’s a good chance some of these just might help you out when going after that special someone. Try to remember: Humor works WONDERS. Good luck and happy dating!

Breaking The Ice

1. Ask her a question about something she loves.

   Girls love it when a guy asks them something that they can talk about easily. If she feels comfortable, then you’re in. If you don’t know what this girl is into, then try to get some facts before making your move. If you don’t then you may run out of things to talk about that interest her, and that is never a good thing.

2. Be romantically dorky, but sweet.

   When you see her, approach her with an incredibly goofy smile, drop to one knee and tell her that she so gorgeous you became weak at the knees, and well there you are. Have her help you up, touch is very important in the game, try to remember that. Now you can change this up in whatever creative way you can think of but be sure to go out of the way to be dorky about it. She’ll probably think it’s cute. If so, you’re in.

3. Compliment her.

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   Try not to go too overboard with this, compliments are good but too much of a good thing can be bad for you.. Try to catch her around clothing. If you work together this might be a little easier, but either way you can make this work. If she says something about an outfit smile sincerely and let her know you’d kill to see her in that outfit… And leave it at that. This way, you let her know that you are interested, but it is smoothed over by the humor in your suggestion. Try it sometime, you may very well be surprised.

4. Tell a funny story about yourself.

   Believe it not there are girls out that that want to hear what you have to say. After all, they are people too. They feel the same things we do, like curiosity for other people. While you may be dying to know what she isn’t wearing, chances are she’s more interested in your personality. So be yourself, let go. A great way to get this going is when she asks: “How are you?” …. you: “Great! But you wouldn’t believe what happened to me the other day…….. One thing though… tell the TRUTH. Girls have a tendency to find out a lot about the guy that they’ve been scoping, or vice versa.

5. Ask her what movie she saw last in theaters.

   Now this can do three things: One, she will be happy because she is telling you her feelings, which is something that most girls love to do. Two, you will be able to find out what kind of movies she is into, which might help when trying to find something to talk about. (Subject related materials) Three, and probably one of the most important (with time, you have to be friends first… Be careful with that though..) is you will have the easy opportunity to ask her out. Chances are she’ll talk about what she want to see soon. Naturally your hearts greatest desire is going to be seeing that movie, so you can ask if she’d like to go along. If she’s busy, go another time. Let her know you are waiting too, though do it subtly.

6. Ask her about college.

   Unless you’re trying to date a woman who is 90, then college is still an issue. This is best for younger girls, as they are that much more likely to be heading in that direction. Ask her if she is attending, and is she isn’t find out what she want to learn. This will get her talking, and give you an insight into her mind. Plus, you may very well relate to her, and if not you’ll still be able to talk to her about your dreams as well. It’s a great way to start, have and finish a successful conversation and get valuable information for doing so.

7. Ask her what she likes to read.

   This may not seem very important but I can assure you that it is. Firstly you may be into the same books which gives you hours of easy, no pressure conversation that is strengthening your relationship. The more time you spend with someone, the stronger your relationship will be. If your not into the same, it still lets you know where her mind is, which can give you countless conversation topics. Really… try it out

Finally…

The best thing you can do around her is relax. Women can tell when you’re trying too hard. So just be yourself… all will be fine. After all nature intended it, so why not?

Side Note:

I hope all of this helps. Truth be told I’m in no better position to give advice than you are, I have no extensive knowledge on women. I am just as mystified, exhilarated, and excited by them as you are. I’m just a little more relaxed about jumping into the unknown, that’s all. I do hope everything goes well.