Seven Tips to Help You Score on a Date

That said; let us proceed to the meat and potatoes.

Slow Down

Any action you undertake, do it slowly, languidly. It is far more interesting, more sensual, and more likely to be noticed. The simple act of lighting your intended’s smoke, or pulling out a chair for them, passing a menu back to a waiter, every action should be done as if it were studied, deliberate, and done with great care.

The quickest way into your paramour’s bedroom is the idea that once there you will take your time.

Mirroring

People react far more emotionally and far less rationally than they would like to believe. As the head (mind) finds arguments for ways of acting and behaving which come from the “heart” (emotional world), we are strengthened in our belief that we are acting rationally. Psychologists know well enough that most (and probably all) of the “life decisions” of a person are taken emotionally and not rationally. The philosopher Blaise Pascal once said: “The heart has reasons which reason knows nothing of.” Mirroring is a technique that builds rapport.

When you meet someone face-to-face, 93% of how you are judged is based on non-verbal data – your appearance and your body language. Only 7% is influenced by the words that you speak. A good seduction technique is to remember people do judge a book by its cover.

Mirroring is matching a person’s behavior. When you do this, they see a bit of themselves in you and people are attracted to people who are like them.

There is a very real difference between mirroring and mimicking. The idea is not to perfectly replicate each and every move made by your intended, this is not a Carol Burnett routine, after all. Mirroring is an ‘Active Listening’ technique that unconsciously clues your intended into assuming that you are both on the same wavelength. It suggests that you are ‘all there’, focused and intent upon them, which is true enough, since you must pay attention to them in order for it to work.

This technique fosters an impression of comprehension and acceptance. By repeating – in a slightly different fashion – the actions of your intended, you synch them with your own actions. Paraphrase their words back to them, they will feel that you have heard them. Should they cross their legs, after a moment do so yourself. When they use their left hand to touch their mouth, stroke your own with your right. If they tap their feet, tap the ashtray with your swizzle stick to the same rhythm. (Not that one, you pervs). It does not even have to be the same exact movement, for example, if they adjust their glasses you might touch your hair. Match their body language with your own, and they will open up to you.