Seven Tips to Help You Score on a Date

Name Dropping

This one should be obvious. Use their name. The sounds of your own name is the sweetest words your ears will ever hear. The surest way to establish a rapport is to use the name of your intended several times. Nothing gets someone’s attention more than using their name.

Be sure not to overdo it, however. It should not come across as forced.

Language Usage

Simply changing the way you speak may also make a difference in how you are received by your intended. Using “you” and “yours,” or “you’ll find…” rather than “I think” or “Let me tell you about,” brings your message a little closer to home and may grab their attention more quickly.

When your initial encounter is over the phone, 70% of how you are perceived is based on your tone of voice and 30% on your words. It is not what you say – it is the way that you say it.

Body Language

The best seduction technique is a smile. It tells your intended paramour you are glad to be with them. Eye contact says you are paying attention and are interested in what is being said. Leaning in toward the prospective partner makes you appear engaged and involved in the conversation. Use as many signals as you can to look interested and interesting.

Certain body language is a turn-off and should be avoided. Crossed arms denote a closed mind, or a pre-formed decision. Facing your body away from your companion suggests that you are not interested, or attracted.

Assumption Principle

If you act as if something were true, you will likely be believed. If you act as if something is true, then other people around you have two choices. They can either assume you are lying or then can assume you are telling (or acting) the truth.

Generally, we are credible; we assume people are telling the truth unless we have already decided that we distrust them. Associated with this we have beliefs in the trustworthy nature of other people. Thus, a decision that the other person is lying would cause us dissonance so we assume they are telling the truth.

This is the principle of the Emperor’s New Clothes. Assumption is a part of creating a self-fulfilling prophecy, where your belief in something leads to it coming true. Not magically, but through the conscious and subconscious actions in which you consequently engage.

Act ‘as if’ what you want was true. If the other person challenges it or acts confused, be concerned for them.

The Doubt Close

Express doubt either about the idea of the relationship or the readiness of the person for the relationship, but make this a relatively weak and easily challenged statement. Pause to let the person disagree, which a contradicting person will almost certainly do. If they do not challenge your doubt, then smoothly continue with a summary of everything so far.

The Doubt Close works by pre-empting their doubting thoughts. If you echo these thoughts, it saves them from having to think the same thoughts. When they accept these, they will begin to trust you and hence will be ready to accept suggestions of other things to think.

After Sealing the Deal

There are two more very important points to make. While they are not techniques, as such, they are crucial to your continued success with this particular paramour. If you are only seeking a one-night stand, you can stop reading here.

The first is respect. Showing that you value their opinions, are considerate of their circumstance and indulgent of their foibles will go a long way toward having them regard you in a positive light, and seek a continuation of the association

Even someone who wants you to call them nasty names while performing degrading acts of perversion upon your person wants to be considered as a an equal person of value when clothed and out in public. Disregarding this simple notion will ensure that even if you score initially, you will not be invited back for a rematch.

Lastly and perhaps most importantly, is discretion. Nobody wants to be talked about.

Guys who brag in the locker room are the guys who are getting the least amount of action from the ladies. Once a girl knows that she will not be the topic of conversation around the office, or dorm, or apartment complex, she will be at ease, secure in the knowledge that she can relax and enjoy your company sexually without damage to her circumstances. The tighter the circle of acquaintance, the more important this element of your dealings becomes.

There you have it, boys and girls, in a nutshell, tips and techniques guaranteed to improve your seduction success rate.