Seven Ways to Know If You are Ready for Marriage
by A person who is selfish may only consider what is in their best interest. Choices, actions taken, and the motives for those choices and actions all benefit the selfish individual. Marriage transitions a person from independence to a life of sharing and togetherness. Decisions should now be made with both parties instead of just one. One flesh means now the married couple become one in everything that they do. For a person who is not ready to give up their independence…
#5 What is your real motive for wanting to get married?
People marry for many reasons such as for money, good looks, unexpected pregnancy, to move away from parents, feeling they are getting too old, just to name a few. If the real reason is not centered around loving the person for who they really are, the other motives may shake the very foundation of the relationship. Loving a person unconditionally and not for what that person can do is a God centered love. This kind of love when faced with a tragic situation such as an accident leaving a person in a wheelchair when you walked down the isle on your wedding day with that person or taking care of someone who can no longer care for themselves, because life happens! This is the real meaning of in sickness and in health. Loving a person for who they are should be a main motive for marriage.
#6 If you are not viewing marriage as a fantasy
Marriage will take lots of work from two willing individuals. The princess riding into the sunset with her knight in shining armor may not happen without real expectations of the work that lay ahead. Enduring hardness means to be consistently the same in the midst of those hard times. Many couples divorce because they feel as though the person they are with is not the same person they married. The truth is people do change because the physical appearance will not be the same at 50 as it was at 26, feelings change but one cannot be lead by feelings but by faith. Belief in what a marriage can be is more powerful than how one feels about it. A persons values that are biblical should never change because God’s word is final authority and the bible is all about marriage preservation and not destruction. Fantasy is not real and false expectation concerning marriage can bring disappointment in the long run.
#7 Are you a whole person?
Wholeness deals with the spirit (real you), soul(mind will and emotions) and body of a person. Another word for wholeness is to be complete. Many marry because they are looking for someone to complete them when in reality one should enter into marriage as whole individuals. Decide to enter the relationship to bring something to it and not to only get something out of it.
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