Sexual Compatibility: Should It Be The Only Determinant

Sex is a rather touchy subject considering the different opinions exhibited by different people. In all of it though one thing remains constant and that is the fact that it is very enjoyable and remains the sweetest experience for any human being.

There is one subject though which I always find intriguing, that of sex before marriage or what we refer to as pre-marital sex. Many have argued that it makes a lot more sense to have sex with ones partner before they get married so as to know how sexually compatible they are. The question now is; how many partners will you have sex with before you finally make a pick. What if you keep testing and the so called incompatible ones keep coming, what happens then.

Many have also argued that the high rate of divorce today is related to sex incompatibility. They say that most of those divorced are the ones who never knew how sexually compatible they were with their partners before getting married. But I’ve always wondered, our parents back in the days never indulged in premarital sex and their marriages lasted a life time, how come? Could it be that the rampant rate of promiscuity today makes for the insatiable taste for sex amongst the youth which leads them to a new level of unsatisfaction?

Sexual ability is an art or so I believe. It can be inborn, achieved and learned. A person who is rather lousy at it today can return as the guru tomorrow so why not believe in people to be as good as you would want them to be and work at it. Today we all seem to have gotten really lazy; we don’t want to work at anything anymore. We don’t work to keep our relationships neither do we work to get better at sex.

If you believe in and love someone you’d always see their flaws as a challenge that can be overcome. Everyone can’t be the same in sexual ability, people have different moves and strength so rather than size up all the men or women around before picking one, thereby exposing yourself to various dangers, why not let your heart pick one and you both work on it.

I know I sound rather old fashioned but believe me, I have come to learn that in many aspects of this life we live, the old fashion works better.

Even if you decide not to wait until you are married before having sex, stick to the one person and with love things will always work out. After all, sex alone does not make a good relationship.