Should You be Close with Your In-Laws?

You’re going to get marry one day. You’re going to have in-laws. Should you get close to them? Is it alright to live in the same house with them? I think that in-laws can be helpful but they can affect your relationship too. I’ve had many bad in-laws stories within my family. In-laws will say a lot of thing that will surprise you if you hear about it. They usually do the criticism when you’re not there. They can talk badly about you to their entire family. There’re some in-laws that are helpful and you can get close to them.

You Should Keep Your Distance

You should have your own place when you get married. If you live in the same house with your in-laws you will fight. You won’t have your freedom. You can’t wear boxer around the house. You can’t drink freely. You can’t argue out loud. You can’t really do anything when you’re living with your in-laws. You can run into finance problem. You might have to pay the bills for five other people. Will you be OK with that?

You Should Live on Your Own

Once you’re married, you should move out and live on your own. You will have less problems this way. You don’t have to keep quiet all the time or follow anyone rules. You have your own rules and you run the house. You walk around in your boxer. You deserve to have your freedom and your own family.

You Should Visit Once in Awhile

Once in awhile, you can stop by your in-laws to say hi but you shouldn’t be over there so much. If you keep your distance, they won’t ask so much about your problems and they won’t have any problems with you either. Problems start when you live together. It can be about how you don’t do your dishes.

You Should Keep Your Relationship Private

You shouldn’t complain to your in-laws about your spouse. You can talk it over with your spouse but don’t go to your in-laws for every little problem. They can gossip about it to other family member and things can get messy. You can like a dysfunctional family if you have too much problems. They think that you can’t keep your family in good shape.

Don’t Spill Every Problem to Your in-Laws

You should keep things private. If you spill everything to your in-laws, they will use it against you some day. People can be unfair sometimes. They won’t feel sorry for you and they will gossip about your problems. I’ve seen it. They will say that you can’t manage to keep your family together.