Shyness
by Shyness.
Shyness is the difficulty of establishing a social relationship with people meet for the first time.
For some people, shyness can represent only the fear of social situations. For some, shyness involves physical manifestations of uneasiness. For many people, shyness is a combination of the two symptoms in a greater or lesser extent. In any case, the effects can be devastating shyness.
Do not understand that shyness is a disease. Although they are quiet and shy, shy are probably the most benevolent people. It is very unlikely that they gossip or boast, be persistent, hostile, arrogant and aggressive. They tend to be loyal friends, make great efforts to maintain a relationship once they succeeded in founding. Often seem more profound, dreamers, thinkers, discreet and modest.Moreover, shy listeners are perceived as being good (although sometimes they are not good listeners), understanding and trust. In teams, they are not trying to take control in certain situations, obviously, they do not dominate the conversation and not talk about them constantly. They may have many qualities, but very few emphasized.
Why are shy tend largely to not be liked, and are socially? Why do people generally feel more attracted to sociable than shy? Why do feel that being shy is equivalent to being unpopular? One problem is that shy people do not know how to behave in a particular situation. Shy not have the knowledge necessary to keep a proper functioning of human relations, they do not know how to start a conversation, ask for a raise or talk in front of a group can be difficult and seem to smile or greet someone.
Human feelings that come spontaneously, in general (smile, looking for appropriate topics of conversation, adopting a relaxed attitude, establishment of eye contact, etc..) Shy people are not innate characteristics.
Shows some people shy behavior characteristics:
Shy people sometimes need to be able to force to do some things like going to parties, wearing a heated conversation with a classmate, etc.. However, for a shy person, require a tremendous amount of effort.
Because shy are often treated with contempt or even qualified, they come to believe that there is something wrong with them. Moreover, some people come to consider shyness as a form of incompetence, and shy people as boring or unattractive. If you do not speak, it means they want to be left alone, preferring to refer to socially those who respond.Unfortunately, the shy are labeled as being presumptuous, neamuzanti, clumsy or boring. In many cases, even prefer the company of the socially shy.
Some people think it’s appropriate for shy people to tell those who come into contact, that they are shy, to benefit from their understanding and let them know that, contrary to appearances, not unfriendly, haughty su bored. You could say this advice is not always welcome. If these people tell others that are shy, then people will perceive as being difficult to approach for a conversation, avoiding them.
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