Six Steps Back to Love

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Marriage can reach a point where you feel so overwhelmed with trying to keep up with life, work, kids, and every other demand in your life whether you are the husband or the wife, that you begin to feel like you are just drifting away from your spouse. Maybe, even, a girlfriend or boyfriend. The following are six steps on helping you get back to love with your spouse. These steps are not meant to be done all in one sitting but spread out over several weeks, such as a week or a little less then a week apart.

Step 1 – Name one thing you would never change and one thing that bugs you.

Most of the time, we get so focused on what our husband or wife is doing that bugs us, we forget what we love about them and would never change about them. We need to take the time to remind them of what we would never change about them. At the same time, stating one, not several, but one thing that bothers you about the other person gives both of you something to work on to bring you closer together.

Step 2 – Remind yourself that you don’t know everything about your husband or wife.

Take the time to look at why you fell in love with your partner in the first place as well as the changes that you have made over the years. Then hunt for things you didn’t know about them.

Step 3 – Discussing and Mixing relationship roles.

Look at the relationship roles that each of you has taken and why you have taken them. Afterwards, create a little experiment that will get you out of your current role and into another, even for a short time or for one adventure.

Step 4 – Tell one or more of the secrets that you have held back

Everyone has little secrets they have not told yet. Now is the time to share one or more with your partner.

Step 5 – Spice up your sex life

You might need it or you might have a great sex life already, but take some time to listen to what the other one wants to do or try. If you don’t feel comfortable with it, tell them so, say your will think about it, and ask if they have another one.

Step 6 – Write the next part of your relationship

Where are is your relationship or life story taking you know? There could be children, or another child, in the future. There could be changes in jobs or adventures that you want to take. Take the next step together.